KWR: Salty about a thank you note

My mother always made us do thank you notes as kids, and I will be doing ours for our wedding, but I wouldn't be insulted to not get a thank you note from someone else or one that was typed/"impersonal". Their reasons are their own for what they do.

I sent a gift this spring for a wedding I couldn't attend in person. The thank you card I received was a picture from the wedding with "thank you" pre-printed on it. That's it. The back was completely blank. No note, no signature, no what it was thanking anyone for ...... I side eyed that for sure.

These freaking bother me! I wrote mine by hand. These totally annoy me.

I'll definitely not be doing that. I find it lazy and pretty rude.

Not the best thing to do, but I'd let something like this go

This is the type of thank you card I receive when I've waited months and have given up hope of even receiving one (remember that -- people do not forget about anticipated thank you cards), so by the time I get a pre-printed card (usually with a photo), I'm just happy to get anything.

I really don't mind a well worded, pre-printed sentiment, but at least a line and a signature added by the sender means a lot more to me.

I do think there's something special about a handwritten, personalized thank you note. (Still trying to convince DH of this. *eye roll*)

But question about a few PP's mentioning that there should be mention of the specific gift. If you got all money, isn't it rude to address a specific amount? I stuck with "generous gift" in these cases...that's not rude is it?

I would not care. I throw them out anyway.

It's not personal against you. I'm sure even their nearest and dearest got the same thank you card. Is it a cop out? Sure. Is it something to get banged up over? No.

Cop out, but personally this is not something that would bother me. TY cards get thrown out immediately anyways.

Wouldn't bother me personally, but I get why people think that's tacky. Bottom line- you got a thank you. I have legit been to wedding where I never even get that. I think that's significantly more rude.

I don't like this at all, however at least you got something! I threw a shower for a (former) friend - paid for it, decorated, brought gifts, cleaned up, etc. ALONE, even though I wasn't the MOH and there were 7 other BM's (only 3 showed up to the shower even - heres a tip, don't ask people who you don't even know to be your BM lol), and then I decorated the wedding (again, basically alone for 7 hours until rehearsal guest showed and helped while the bride went home to take a shower!), paid for 95% of the decorations, brought a gift, cleaned up, you get the point (bride said she would pay me back - I really honestly didn't mind helping because she was my best friend - until the day of the wedding and the day after when she told me I ruined her wedding - it really came down to the fact that she didn't have her shit together, her parents didn't give a damn as always (my parents practically raised her), she didn't want the wedding - her fiance did)), etc. the list goes on - all in all she shouldn't have gotten married, let alone had a wedding.

Anyway, my overall point is that I felt like an idiot for doing all that I did and wasn't ever given a verbal thank you - let alone thank you cards for the shower and the wedding! People are shitty, especially when talking weddings, it brings out the worst in people - however I will make sure to go above and beyond to never make anyone feel like she did to me, my fiance, and my whole family.

Only a cop out because it doesn't sound personalized, if it was personalized to each person and hand signed I don't see a problem. I'm super picky about my handwriting, I would have to handwrite everyone numerous times until I'd be happy with it.

I mean before wedding wire I wouldn't have even thought about receiving one. Now I would think this is rude.

Like the last wedding FH and I attended, we gave the couple $100 and didn't receive a thank you in the mail. I asked him and he said its because his friend texted him a thank you. I said that it wasn't enough and FH said I was crazy lol.

Now a days you have to keep your fingers crossed and hope that you will get a thank you. So, yes I would have been happy to receive this thank you.