Kids meal

I'm not real sure why you are arguing so much. If you don't want honest feedback, then you shouldn't ask for it. BTW this is what you said that indicated she is an infant of solid food eating age: "From what I learned children at that age should be drinking 1/2 cup of milk, 1oz of meat, 1/4 of fruits and veggies, and 1/2 a serving of grain." Are you a mother? I get the sense that you are not. Please don't think that you know what is best for every child based off what you read in a book. Sure, there are bad parents out there that don't make the best choices, BUT in your situation, based off what you described, you have no business stressing over this mother and her child's eating habits. PS- if a baby has teeth (even if they are under 6 months) then they certainly can eat solids. God knows children survived eating that way long before your books came along on what is best for all babies.

I would just give the guest the kid's meal they asked for.

I think the frustration is that many times a child's meal will cost north of $30, and many bride's feel that guests just throw their money away. This is why I don't think kids should be invited.

I think your phrasing of "my 2nd concern is this food not being healthy enough for this child I studied child development and know the importance of healthy eating" and "I just thought she would also be feeding her child" is reading as judgemental, since you are saying your food isn't healthy enough for someone elses kid. That's kind of judge-y, even if it is your job. You have not been hired as this kids nutritionist.

That said, if you are really concerned about it I'd call the mother and say "I just want to let you know what our kids meal option is, is that going to be okay?"

Kids meals at most weddings are pizza, mac and cheese, chicken fingers, etc. So I am sure this is something the parent expects, or if they were really worried they would ask.

Otherwise, just give them the kids meal ::shrug::

Just tell them there are no kids meals provide for that age it's only age group say 5-12. My venue doesn't even offer a kids meal. Age 5-12 gets half off the normal food, and 5 and under is free. What is the cost if you didn't give said 1 year old a kids meal, if it's free then again reiterate there isn't a kids meal for that age! This is what I would do.

You can't give her the option of choosing the kids meal and then be shocked/concerned when she chooses the kids meal.... also, as another comment said, you'll be surprised at how many adults waste food at your wedding.

This! If you offer a certain meal, you can't really judge someone for taking you up on the offer.