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Expert July 2019

Kids meal

Natalie, on May 29, 2019 at 1:40 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 35
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So I know a lot of people will have different opinions about this so please be respectful about it. I have a guest who has a child that will be under 1 at the wedding and requested a kids meal our kids meal is chicken strips and fries with a side of grapes. Other guests with children this age are feeding the child from their plate since they don’t eat a lot or are bringing them their own food (since ours is a bit unhealthy) so my 1st concern is the child not eating anything and spending money on a plate that won’t be touched or barely touched (I hate wasting food) and my 2nd concern is this food not being healthy enough for this child I studied child development and know the importance of healthy eating sadly this is the only option the caterer gave us or else it would break the bank. From what I learned children at that age should be drinking 1/2 cup of milk, 1oz of meat, 1/4 of fruits and veggies, and 1/2 a serving of grain. The only thing on the kids menu that is on the list provided is meat (which is fried) and grapes (which can also be a hazard if people arnt careful) what are your thoughts on it? I haven’t said anything to family and probably won’t I guess I just thought she would also be feeding her child and caught me off guard I’m 38 days from the wedding so every little thing that doesn’t go as expected can throw me off.

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Latest activity by Jonai , on May 31, 2019 at 1:24 AM
  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    Kids eat chicken fingers, that's just life, so I wouldn't worry about the health of the meal especially for one night. It isn't a requirement so parents can bring their own food, but it's a perfectly fine option. Our kids meal is chicken tenders, macaroni and cheese, and a side of fruit. I agree, grapes aren't safe, so I'd ask the caterer if they can either be cut into quarters or substituted for something else. In our invites, I included an insert to people with kids so they know what the kids meal is and can reach out if it doesn't work.

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    No one eats well 100% of the time. It’s not your place to judge how they feed their children anyway.
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  • Danielle
    Master June 2019
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    I can definitely tell you are NOT a parent. As a parent myself, let me assure you that it's normal for a child that age to eat those things. If you offered a kids meal to your guests, then you should allow her to choose that option and move on. Good luck with everything. This is definitely something you should not be stressing over.

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  • LB
    Champion November 2016
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    Just get them the children's meal. You do not need to be worrying about someone else's child's nutrition.

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  • Kelly
    Super October 2019
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    The kids meal food that she requested is all fine - except for the grapes. My best friends 2 yr old had a tragic incident with a grape & he passed away. So due to that, I do not allow kids to eat grapes in my presence unless I physically peel them (and yes you can peel them) I’m probably a little over the top w/ grapes & toddlers but I have reason to be.
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  • Emily
    Super April 2020
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    I agree - don't stress out over it, let her mother decide if it's healthy enough for her child or not. I'm assuming she's not bothered by it if she requested it!

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  • N
    Expert July 2019
    Natalie ·
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    How am I judging? I would love to know!
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  • N
    Expert July 2019
    Natalie ·
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    How do you know it’s normal for children that age to eat those things when you don’t even know how old the child is?
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  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
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    I think it isn’t your business how healthy this child is. If you were concerned about that, why didn’t you choose a venue that provided a healthier option for ALL the children invited. If this child is invited the mother is certainly within her right to ask for a kids meal for them. As a mom, I’m really put off by this post because it sounds like you think you know better than this child’s mother what he/she should or shouldn’t eat.
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  • Danielle
    Master June 2019
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    You said under 1 and that children their age can eat solid foods.

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  • Alisha
    VIP April 2021
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    Most children like chicken fingers and some fruit depending on what kind of fruit. Maybe the parents can bring something for the child to eat. Don’t stress yourself out because parents tend to make sure that the child will eat.
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  • N
    Expert July 2019
    Natalie ·
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    I have worked with parents and families who don’t always know what’s better for their children. And it’s my job to educate them. If you would have read my whole post I put the reason that I could t get a healthier option was because the catering company would have charged us more for another option and as a person still in college I don’t have money to pay for a healthier option. I’m not saying the mother doesn’t have a right in any way I just thought she would bring food for the child since they are still young.
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  • N
    Expert July 2019
    Natalie ·
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    Under 1 can mean children from age 0-11 months and I’m pretty sure kids under 6 months should be eating solids. I never said exactly how many months she is.
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  • LB
    Champion November 2016
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    Eh I think the health thing is a cop out (but totally sanctimonious at the same time).

    I feel like OP just thought she'd get away with not providing kids meals cause parents would bring their own food or let their kid eat off their plate. Both of which are ridiculous.

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  • LB
    Champion November 2016
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    This is besides the point. She asked for the kids meal, get her the kids meal.

    Goodness.

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  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
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    You listed the requirements of healthy eating for the age though. No site would tell you to add fruits, veggies, grain, and meat to an infant’s diet prior to 6 months old.
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  • LB
    Champion November 2016
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    Unless this parent is hiring you to advise them on what their child eats, than no, it is not your job to "educate" them.

    You're in college. Get your degree and get some clients and then you can tell them what do to.

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  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
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    I agree 100%! By the time my daughter was 8 months old, she would eat her own meal off her own plate. Small portions obviously but she ate everything we ate. She never would have gone for sharing off my plate and I would have felt really weird bringing my own fruits/veggies and meats to a place that should be providing her a meal.
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  • N
    Expert July 2019
    Natalie ·
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    I have some thanks.
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  • LB
    Champion November 2016
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    Awesome! Then channel this frustration onto them. It's completely inappropriate to judge (and yes, you're judging) a guest of your wedding like this.

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