Kids leaving the reception??

I would just have a kid free wedding if you don't want them at the reception.

I don't see a problem with it. For my reception my son, stepson, niece, and nephew will probably go upstairs with my oldest niece and nephew (our wedding is in a hotel so its convenient, we have rooms booked upstairs). They will be there for some of the reception but once it gets late they will go upstairs for bed.

I suggest to hire at least 1 babysitter (adult) for a piece of mind.

I think it would be much easier to have a no kids wedding. You also may offend people

Either don't invite kids (including flowerchildren, couple's own children. etc) to any of it if you don't want them at the reception or have babysitting at the reception site. Kids do not want to babysit others at a party and the teen demographic would rather hang out with the adults than be treated as children themselves. It sounds like this is a situation where *all* kids are better off left at home. There are some parents who are "out of sight, out of mind" and others who want to check on their kids every half hour.

I think that’s a great idea the only thing is I agree with the other person who said you should probably hire a sitter just for the peace of mind some 16-year-old might not want to handle so many little kids at one time. You could find one on Sittercity .com or Care.com. Maybe ask each parent to throw in 10 or $20 to cover the cost of the sitter.

Also I think that if you want the kids at the ceremony but not at the reception you’re going about the right way to find the solutions to do so. I’m not sure why people are so quick to just say no kids at the wedding at all to people who have an interest in having the children at their wedding. If you want to do the ceremony you can do that, you don’t think it’s best for them to be at the reception there are lots of options for that to be accommodated as well. Do it’s best for you and your family😊

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I completely agree with this!

Why have kids there in the first place? No one should be invited to just half of an event and then be sent home, even a child.

The problem I have is that I wouldn’t want leave a wedding for 40 minutes to drop my kid at a hotel even if transportation was being provided. I could get down with an on site babysitter but if I have to leave and get them settled and come back , id much rather just leave them home with a babysitter

View Quoted Comment This. Either invite kids to both events or none. It might be commonly done to have kids at the ceremony only but most consider it rude because it is.

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I agree with this 100%!

Who is going to feed the kids at the hotel?
Maybe have some pizzas ordered for them, otherwise, it’s a bit awkward they watch you get married and then no dinner and cake lol

If you do go this route don't forget to ask the older teens if they are ok with the arrangement. They should also be compensated for their time.

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View Quoted Comment Great idea- that’s for the help!

View Quoted Comment That’s the idea!

View Quoted Comment Great point- thank you!

View Quoted Comment Thank you for the insight! Most of the kids are cousins that are coming from out of town, so I was hoping to make it easier for them by making arrangements for them, instead of having them do so on their own. Definitely something I’ll have to think about.

Thinking back to being 16, I would be so annoyed to have to leave during the fun part of a wedding to babysit, even if it was my cousins. I babysat my cousins frequently as a teen (for money) and fortunately my wonderful aunts and uncles never took advantage of that during family event.