Kids: invite some, exclude others. Yay or Nay?

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We haven't had our wedding yet, but if someone does question, I plan to say it was because of limited space, which it was. I think everyone understands that there is a limit and not everyone can be invited. That is also why we decided to have a second "reception" a month later for all of my extended family that was not invited. I live in a different state than my family, and felt it would be difficult for them to travel, so I decided not to invite them, and do something different instead. At the end of the day, its your wedding and your special day, and no one should be mad at the decisions you made.

I was a no on this, my fiancé is a yes. I am just not advertising it and if someone asks, I say its ok and will order their littles chicken fingers. However, I warn my guests that our wedding venue is in a bar, downtown on a Friday night. Not anywhere they want to bring their kids.

I am having mostly adults. The only children that will be at our wedding is the flower girl and my nephew. We decided to only invite the kids that are important to us or are big parts of our lives. Its your wedding so what ever kids in your life are important to you and you feel should be there on your big day go-ahead and invite them!

We plan to allow family children only. It may be seen as "picking and choosing" but our date ended up being Halloween. We figured we may lose a few family members if they're not able to be with their children that day. So we'll provide them with trick-or-treat bags (the only Halloween-related thing that will be at our wedding).

Only one of our closest friends has a child and we've already discussed it with them. Some other acquaintances have children, but they're single and weren't planning on bringing them.

Call us wrong but that's our plan.
My fiance has a friend who has 7 kids. Our tables seat 8. So he, his wife and their children won't fit at one table. I've met these people, in passing, once. My fiance is a decent acquaintance with this guy. Sorry, but we just don't know him well enough to invite and feed his small army.
We have a few other friends who we aren't inviting their children either. It really depends on close we are with the guests and how well we know their children.

We decided to not invite children to our wedding or reception due to budget and costs. It was not an easy decision to make as a lot of our friends and family have young children. The only exception that will be made is our ring bearer, which is FH's nephew.