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Kids invitation etiquette

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Jessica, on July 6, 2020 at 10:59 AM

Hi everyone! So I’m getting married Nov 2021 and I’m having an issue with guest list /how to word invitations for children. I know many people say kids are an “all or none” kind of thing but I’m looking more at only inviting my families kids since I actually know/am close with them. (Fiancé doesn’t have kids in his fam). Especially since most of my family w/ kids won’t be able to find sitters because we all tend to help each other out & everyone who usually babysits will be at the wedding.

I know this may seem rude to friends who have kids but I’m trying to keep a low guest count & if I invited everyone’s kids they would outnumber the adults lol
Anyway I was trying to figure out how will I word my invitations to accomplish this. My mom suggested just putting out normal invites but writing on the rsvp’s “we have reserved ___ seats for you” and just me fill in the # for who can come (including the kids). That way no one feels offended by a “no kids or only certain kids” wording on the invite. What do you guys think? I really would love to have everyone if I could afford it or no kids at all but then I know for a fact majority of my family wouldn’t be able to attend. Thanks for any help in advanced!!

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Just Said Yes October 2020
Katie · on July 10, 2020 at 7:40 PM
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Congrats! You totally should not feel that you'd be rude to any of your guests by having the day the exactly how YOU want it! Friends should be completely understanding of your decisions, and not take them personally. If you don't mind kids there, your's mom's idea is good because you can control the number of guests, and your guest decides who to bring.
My fiancé and I didn't address the issue on our invite at all, instead where our guests will RSVP on our WeddingWire website, they can only click for what is there! We said, "in order to allow guests, including parents, an evening of relaxation we politely request an adult only wedding day. We hope this notice means you are still able to share our big day and will enjoy the evening off!" 😊 My niece and nephew are in the wedding, and my fiancé's 3 nieces and nephew will be there, that's it. 6 kids.
Other things to consider: I've been to weddings where group childcare has been arranged. The bride has a huge Italian family and wanted all the kids close so they hired a babysitting service for the night. Also, if you DO have kids in attendance in place of an adult, you bar tab might not be so high since the kids won't be drinking.
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Tata · on July 13, 2020 at 9:57 AM
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You just put no children on your invitation and those that you would like for them to bring their kids put a little note in there invitation we don’t have to tell your guests that there will be kids there you can also have a a kids table
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