Kids Free Wedding

Personally, I would say 17 or older. We are technically having a kids free wedding, aside from my nieces who will be our flower girls. It wasn't intentional until we only had a couple kids included on the guest list anyways, and I would just rather not have kids there lol. Do you plan on putting the "adults only" thing on your wedding website?

We are doing ours as a "kid free" no one under 21, besides FHs brother. We are having an open bar and some of my nieces and nephews will be 18 and not others so we did not want to exclude some so we just went with 21 and over.

Instead of setting an age, I would invite in circles. Choosing an age like 17 or 18 makes it difficult when you families with say a 16 year old and an 18 year old. Are you going to invite one of their kids and exclude the others? It can lead to a lot of drama. You can avoid that by inviting in circles.

We are doing 21+

View Quoted Comment Yes we have it on our website as an adults only celebration.

View Quoted Comment So we have FH's 1 cousins and sister who are both 18 and then everyone else is 12 and under. So the 18 year olds are invited sinxe they technically are adults in the eyes of the law hah. But we were thinking the other kids who are 12 and under would not be invited. They arent from the same families as the two 18 year olds so its not like one child would be invited and the other not.

We are only having kids that are in the wedding. Flower girls and then 2 of my young teen cousins who will be ushers. On invitations I will just not include the names of the children in the families.

View Quoted Comment It’s totally up to you, but I still think that inviting in circles is the best choice. For instance, I have a 14 year old cousin and an 18 year old cousin. Since all of the cousins can’t be invited, I would cut cousins out of the guest list all together. In my eyes, it wouldn’t be fair to tell one set of aunts and uncles that their child can come, but the others can’t.

Ours was kids free and everyone respected that. I was the youngest at our wedding and I’m 28.

If the 18 year olds aren’t in the same family as the younger ones, I say go 18 and up. People will completely understand if an 18 year old was invited and not a 12 year old.

View Quoted Comment Agreed. Circles is best. We invited family children (cousins, we didn't have nieces and nephews at the time) and didn't invite non-family children.

We are doing a mix of circles and age limits. FHs 3 kids (16, 14 and 14) are obviously included, and he has a first cousin that will be 15. Those are the only people under 21 that will be invited. I have cousins with kids that will be near the same range, but they are in a “circle” removed so i don’t feel the least guilty about it. That said, I see nothing wrong with your age cutoff since there is a big gap between the line you’ve drawn and no family will be told one kid can come but the other can’t. We picked 21 so that we can easily tell the bartenders which 4 are not allowed to have alcohol, but that’s something I probably worry about more than the average person haha.

We made our cutoff at 21 so we wouldn’t have to worry about carding people for alcohol.

We did not invite anyone under the age of 21 and we are also not having a FG or RB.

Ours is adult only with the exception of ring bearer who is my FH nephew.

We are getting push back from fiances uncle who is coming from out of town because his 12 yr old daughter isnt invited. However, the parents arent together and share custody so the daughter could stay with her mom or grandma back home. I also said if he wanted her to come with him, she could stay at my parents house where my nieces will have a babysitter and she can be watched there. Neither option is apparently good for him. He is the only person we've got push back from on the no kids rule.

He is also saying he isnt coming to the wedding now when this is fiances only uncle. He is telling his sisters (fiances aunts) how hes feeling and they're telling fiance. He isnt even talking to fiance himself which I feel is ridiculous.

Our reception is 21+, other than our own kids. Second wedding for both, our youngest is almost 12 and they will not be staying entire night. My mother in law will be taking them back to our house late, but not at midnight when it ends.

We did have ONE person push back and say well what about so and so, she's 18. We said sorry, 21+ b/c of the alcohol, hotel, etc. We are not going to be held responsible.

We are doing 21 excluding the bridal party.

We kept the only children invited to close family. My 14 year old niece will be there, but our 3&4 year old great nephews were invited since their parents (my niece her nephew) live out of the state. They couldn't make it so 14 and up it is.