Kids at weddings.

We invited all kids, too many of our guests had them to not include them! We sat them by their parents (I personally am not a fan of kids tables). Our venue also had a kids room so we hired a certified nanny service to hangout in their in case the kids got bored. We still had plenty of drinking & dancing & partying!

There will not be kids at our wedding. My side of the family only has 3 and FHs only 1. And they’re all under 3. And then the rest of the kids are kids of friends. It was just too expensive and our wedding is formal and I just don’t think kids fit well in that. I was just at a wedding that only had 4 kids there, so not a lot at all, and during the ceremony they all screamed the entire time. No one took them out of the room and I looked at the brides face and she looked so mad. You couldn’t even hear what the officiant was saying. Then at the ceremony the kids took over the dance floor and just rolled around everywhere so no one could really go on it. At another wedding there was only one kid, and his mom wasn’t watching him and he almost fell off a balcony and he Also went around kicking people and no one stopped him. Some people just don’t watch their kids (At least the ones I know) and it could cause a lot of issues at my wedding which is at a historic building. If anyone damages the artwork or something we are liable and with kids that’s just too much of a risk.


We did get some backlash because of it, and I was expecting some people to say they were not coming, but people that want to be there work it out. I have a friend who lives about 4 hours from our wedding with a daughter, and his wife’s mom is flying in from across the country to watch their daughter so him and his wife can go to our wedding. At first I felt bad But he reassured me that this is something they wanted to do because they wanted to celebrate with me. Honestly I think a lot of people just appreciate a night out!

We are not having kids, there is a lot on both sides as well with our friends. We made the decision after talking with majority of the people we were going to invite. Almost everyone was excited to not have to worry about children running around and to have an adult night. Of course there are some that made the choice not to come because of the no kids (some just had newborns) but majority were happy about the choice we made. You have to do what you would like for your day.

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Our venue will be a historic building too, so that is one thing that worries me. I think people appreciate a night out too, but when i say that i get told "well, you don't have kids yet so you don't know. "

Thank you for your comment. It helped me bring up a couple of more points to the other side!

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Thank you Kristina! I hadn't thought it being the ones that really want to come making a way.

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Our venue is in a really rural area, so no Nanny services, and there isn't a space for the kids to go separately if they get bored in the venue. If there was space for them to go separately I would gladly oblige and let them come.

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I get that! Ours was too, it was about 30 minutes from any real stores, cities, etc. So not as far as some rural venues but farther than others and it cost us more in travel fees. Only 3 or so kids used it, the rest stayed occupied with family!

Our venue has a 150 person limit (fire code) so we HAD to cut out kids to make our list work. Even if we had searched for a larger venue, I really don't think I would want to have to spend an additional $500-$1000 on food just so children could be there. We love our friends and family's kiddos, but this day is about us and it just doesn't make sense.

We are semi-kid free. Kids of people in the wedding are invited, friend's kids that are under 3, and first cousins.

But I struggle with this so much. I love having kids at weddings because I think it's important to show the young ones what it looks like to commit your life to someone. When my cousins got married (some when I was only 6) all the kids were invited. I remember having such a fun time and it was amazing to be with family. But on my dad's side I'm one of the youngest. On my mom's I'm the oldest. So the age range is huge.

That being said, if I invited all of my cousins and their kids and they all came, we would have 180 people. My FH and I are paying for the whole thing and I cannot afford that bill. We cut a lot of friends/some family as well as almost all of the kids that aren't 1st cousins or are under 3.

We ended up inviting 142 people but I'm praying 22 people cannot come. If we go over 120 people, we have to get an additional tent. The difference between 120 and 140 is $3,000. I just can't.

I wish I could’ve had the kids included but that will add a bigger budget to our pocket so NO kids for us 🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️

We got kids. So kids are in. Plus the place im renting has bouncy houses!! How cool is that

View Quoted Comment Who’d want to take a Newborn 👶 around a bunch of (random) people?!


People have colds, etc... and 👶ies are susceptible to any and EVERYTHING‼️

View Quoted Comment Everyone that is invited will not RSVP “yes” and even then, some that did will not attend.

View Quoted Comment I’m glad it helped!! I don’t have kids either, so to me that is even more reason to not have kids at my wedding lol.

Our wedding is only going to be 18 and older mainly because of costs. Both of our families have A LOT of children and we honestly don't have the space or the budget for all of them. In my opinion: Pros would be saving money and having no interruptions during the ceremony; There are no cons to me because this is our day so hopefully our decision is respected

I am not having kids at mine, I don’t want kids crying during the ceremony or reception. I love kids and work with kids, but I just don’t want them at my wedding. There’s not too many kids in either of our families either so it won’t be a problem.

I did not have kids at my wedding. I didn't want to pay $100 pp for a child who isn't going to eat all their food anyway and I didn't want kids running around playing. Only one parent complained about it. Other parents were happy to have a couple of hours kid free with an open bar!

My FH and I will be having our kids and only siblings kids

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Same here. My family has decided to ignore our wishes. So we have caved to a certain point.

Thank you everyone!! We have come to an agreement with our families that 13+ will be allowed. We think it’s important for them to know how to behave at formal events and think that is a good age for our venue and other needs.