Kids at a wedding? Yes, or no? His side of the family has a lot of kids, where as my side has few. What are the pros and cons? If you had a kid free wedding with a lot of kids on the family how did it work for you?
We are inviting kids because that exact same issue. There really is no way for us to cut the kids especially since some of our cousins have kids that would meet the age cutoff and children under the cutoff if we were to have an age cutoff.
For the small kids i printed out some color books and bought crayons. Hopefully that will keep them occupied
I’m not a big fan of kids especially smaller that seem to distract from a formal ceremony. At my first wedding, I hired a babysitter to take care of the young out of town kids. They were in the same hotel where the reception was. But one person refused and her son was the star of the dance floor - not me and my groom.
I am definately having kids i have always loved kids and they bring a happiness and joy to any occasion. both our families have a decent number of kids and most of our guest list had children so i want all to feel welcome! it's a celebration of love and family so I want to make sure we all get together and just worry about having a great time! plus we ourselves have triplets and they are everything to me so I wouldnt do anything without them but every couple is different and not everyone is having laid back weddings so it all depends on the vibe and view you have for your wedding to decide what's best for your guest list
We did this "wrong". We only invited children we had met. Or tiny babies. One family has so many kids, that the parents and children can't sit at a table for 8. We don't know their kids, so we just addressed the invited to Steve and Michelle. If we've met the kids, we invited The Smiths.We just sent out invites last week. So far, 3 of the families we invited opted to get a babysitter. And one of these were the parents of a 4 month old.If people don't like the way we did it, they don't have to attend.
The biggest con is that many people may simply not come because they can't left their children alone. The pros are all the other things, haha.
Actually, we do not have lots of friends with kids so we are having a kid-free wedding and everyone is okay with it. Still, my cousin who got married last year had a free-kid wedding too and not so many guests could make it because of that particular rule.
These are all the same pros and cons we are struggling with now. 😩 I genuinely like kids, but there is a family off of each side that has terrors for children and I know they won’t make them behave to my standard and the one family is liable to break something. Those 2 families are the whole reason I’m even contemplating and they are very close family to our mothers. 🤦🏻♀️
We have a lot of kids in our family but we decided not to have any kids. We don’t want kids crying at the ceremony or running around. Also now we don’t have to have food for kids to eat so it’s a grown up affair.
My wedding includes most of the kids.... making them my wedding party, flower girls and ring bearers.... I have a daughter and she is my maid of honor. She will be 11. I have been a parent/stepparent most of my life. Kids have always been a part of my life
Heck Yes! As a mom, it's really a drag that the kids can't come and enjoy family. I had a 3 week old I had to leave behind for my brothers wedding. I almost didn't go, and a lot of family didn't show up. Caused a huge fight with family and family friends. Still saltiness years later.
I am going to come off as a cold hearted person here but I only want my (three) grandkids at my wedding - but we have 7 nieces and nephews, 5 of whom are under 7 years old. Some are well behaved and their parents are wonderful. I’m not too concerned about them, but they have their wild moments and they are loud!
One niece always has an attitude and refuses to smile and stomps her feet in tantrum all of the time. One is a toddler and her 4 yr old sister is outgoing but her parents do not watch them well and let them do anything.
I’m older than most brides and I’m over the little kid thing. I don’t have the patience anymore. I don’t deal well with the screaming and crying and all that stuff. All of our kids are grown. I’ve never really been a kid person - if that makes sense. I may have a lot of kids but that doesn’t mean I like being around a lot of (other peoples) kids. There’s no way we can exclude these kids. I’d like to, because I just don’t want kids there, but I love them and I love their parents so I just need to deal with it.
We are allowing kids as I have kids of my own and so do a few of my bridesmaids as well as our family and friends.
We will have a kids table for the older kids (10-teen) and also high chairs available from our venue for the little kids. The ones in between will sit at the tables with their parents and other people with kids in similar age. We also are having an outdoor ceremony and knowing small children cannot sit well, we will have a blanketed area off to the side (picnic style) for families with small children to allow the babies and toddler’s some room. I guess because I’m a mom of two and have been the nervous wreck parent at events I’m more laid back. It won’t bother me if someone has to run after their toddler, it won’t ruin our moment.