Kids at the wedding

No kids is the easiest route. If I gave every single cousin of mine the option of bringing their children and if they all said yes to bringing their kids, I’d have 25 kids - not including nieces and nephews, my FHs cousin’s kids OR our friend’s kids.

I'd personally do not want kids either except for flower girl and ring bearer. It will just get messy if your friends and other guests bring their kids with them, and you wouldn't want it to happen on the biggest day of your life.

If you know someone well enough to invite them to a Wedding, you know them we enough to call those with children, and ask.

Id put on the save the dates please let us know if you intend on bringing children with you so we can have activities for the children... Im allowing children for mine and plan on making lil activity bags for the kids with coloring books and candy and small items for their entertainment

The only children that are invited to our wedding are our nieces and nephews. No other children. If you want to keep it to your immediate family only like we did, it is completely appropriate! We have had no guest complaints about it and some have even told us that they are excited about having a date night after being cooped up for so long!


If you’re really concerned about guests not coming because of their kids, consider hiring a babysitter near the venue or to keep the kids in another room at the venue!

View Quoted Comment Many people do get upset if someone else's kids can come, and theirs cannot. Those are people who have forgotten their manners, and I see no need to cater to them. It is the hosts, not the guests, who decide who; s and os not invited. As long as you are not being arbitrary and mean, leaving out just the kids with bad acne, braces, or in wheelchairs because you don't want them in your pictures, any reasonable criteria are fine. You can decide an 8pm to 2 am wedding is no place for those under high school age, or that you are inviting kids who are close, sibling's children, and your godchild and his sisters, but not those of neighbors and coworkers. Most people learn such things by late elementary school. Johnny is only 7, and for his birthday his mom is inviting 3 neighbors, 7 and 8 yr olds he plays with, and 3 friends from his school class. Not their brothers and sisters , or whole school class, or every 7 or 8 year old on the block. Limited to 6, mom logically picks kids whom her son plays with most. Kids need to learn to accept reasonable choices by others, and parents need to show good manners and accept that hosts are being fair as they can, within their constraints, and not whi e and complain. I have received 2 calls already over my youngest 2 kids birthday party. Mothers who think their kids should be included, especially since with Covid they don't get to many parties ( they said.) Duh, yes, and covid is why we are limiting the twins party this year to each having separate parties for 6, not even their brothers and sisters or the kids in our pod,seen daily, who will have a family b'day in addition. But a distant neighbor has told me I am mean. So what. I will consider the source and not change. And do not see why people being reasonable should cave in because they some other parents think their kids should be included in everything, or hosts are responsible for child care if not offered.

I'm getting married May 2021. We're getting ready to pick wedding invites and RSVP cards. We have an open bar so for us, NO KIDS. The only kids are my immediate family aka my brothers & sisters kids and my brothers in laws daughter. I already asked one of my grooms men and he said hell nah. My wife and I want to enjoy the wedding, lol. So we will put in on the invite in Spanish and English adult ONLY reception. We already anticipate guest declining and that's fine with us.