Kids at bridal shower?

I would assume the flower girl is invited, but if you got an invitation that was addressed to you and only you that would trump my assumption and I wouldn't show up with my kid who wasn't invited. I don't think it's your fault for assuming she wasn't invited because she didn't get an invitation.

I didn't know the flower girl attended...I'm not sure what the big deal was for them, sorry to hear that :/ I would prefer no children, but then again that's my preference.

I wouldn't have thought she was invited either if the invitation was addressed only to you in all honestly. That's why invitation wording is so important!

An no you're not wrong at all! Forgot to add that I would have thought the same!

I've been to showers before where there is children. But I'm doing adult only showers

Unfortunately, a few days before I found I was not able to attend and I was told to tell the bride and she flipped over how the flower girl would get there. Had I not said anything to the bride (as instructed) about not being able to attend, I would have shown up without the flower girl. There won't be children at my shower...,

I don't know why anyone would assume a flower girl would be invited. If there is one more boring place than an wedding for a little kid, it's a shower....

Thank you for the responses! It's just irked me forever haha I know I should let it go, but my mom was talking with me about my shower and it came to mind again. I'm so glad to know this isn't necessary typical and I agree that crystal clear invitation wording can save everyone from stress!

I would never expect a child to be at an adult function (other than the wedding where they have a specific role).

I just experienced this as I hosted a bridal shower for my daughter. The to be mother in law made a huge ordeal the day before and morning of because kids were not invited. We distinctly made the invites to the people that were invited. She assumed kids were welcome. One- I have never been to a bridal shower where kids came. Two-I believe it is a day for the bride to be, not a kids party. It has always been an adult function in my eyes. If I wanted them there, I would have put their names on the invite. Three-She threatens my daughter that 8 people would not come if 2 kids weren't invited. I stood my ground and said no. The ladies all ended up coming with no kids in tow but the gray cloud was already there from all the drama. It wasn't as enjoyable of a day and they really over shadowed their drama into my daughters day. Very disappointed. I was not aware that the invite alone was not clear enough that the people on the invite was an open invitation for them to assume kids could come. Can the bride have one day where it's about her?