Kid-free

View Quoted Comment Correct no ring bearer or flower girl.

IT's your day and you should not have to worry or stress about who doesn't like it. CONGRATULATIONS & ENJOY YOUR SPECIAL DAY!!

I did the same thing the only kids that will be at the reception will be ours. My best advice is to set your rules now and don't change for anyone. I got some backlash but at the end of the day I tried to encourage them to look at it like a date night. For the ones that was not happy I am sorry you will not be able to attend but the rules are set for everyone and if we change for you then we will have to change and accommodate others. Its hard especially when it is family but I don't think people realize just how expensive it can be, and me personally I didn't want anyone to come and get loose and feel like its plenty of family around to watch them. No they came to relax and have a good time and that is what is going to happen.

My wedding is also a kid free . It's your wedding not theirs . They just have to respect your decision.

So far we haven't had any backlash; in fact some guests are looking forward to a night away. I do expect an out-of-town cousin's husband not to come....but then again he doesn't come to anything lol.

Hi i agree with you. I'm going through the same thing as u are . You you're right it is your day and they are supposed to do how you want it to be so t they can't either go along with the way you planned it to be. If not tell them just don't come.

This is what I'm nervous about and I know I shouldn't be. Our wedding is also kid-free and no kids in the wedding party. Our decision was based on two things - open bar (I don't want kids around all that alcohol), and space restrictions. We each have big families and a limited number of people to invite due to venue capacity. Most of the people we've communicated to in person are thrilled for a kid free night however I'm nervous for the black lash for the people who won't understand.

It is your day! I'd provide options for babysitter in your message to parents who are upset about the issue. Just emphasize that it is due to alcohol being served and that you want them to be able to let their hair down and enjoy the event, or that you have strict guest list due to the venue. Ultimately it is their problem to solve, not yours, and as long as you have been very clear it is up to them to attend or not.

We are doing the same.. you do you girl! It is your wedding!

View Quoted Comment Im having a issue deciding whether to have kid free wedding. Do you or groom have nieces and nephews that were excluded?

View Quoted Comment Do you all have nieces or nephews? I am having an issue with having to many nieces and nephews. And did you exclude them?

I’m dealing with the same thing...my fiancé has two cousins coming from out of town that seemingly are unable to find childcare for a couple days for our wedding (uh huh...sure). We’re likely going to wind up hiring a babysitter to watch the children away from the reception but still on location to watch them for a few hours. Shouldn’t be our responsibility, but somehow...🙄

View Quoted Comment I do, and yes I excluded them also... I just felt I had to stay neutral all around the board. So we made it clear at the beginning no kids, and even though our kids will be there, it will only be for a short period of time. It was just easier to say no to everyone then to start picking and choosing. Cause I have cousins that are super close to me like my nieces and nephews so I figured it was easier to say no to everyone. Not a popular decision but only u know what u can handle. I didn’t want to think about kids running around, someone grabbing alcohol, destroying decorations, guest not having a good time cause the kids I just said no

View Quoted Comment We do not have any nieces or nephews, but the majority of our guests are traveling in from out of state. If we had 1 kid, there is no way we could limit it and it would end up being 60-70 kids, with 125 adults (not joking).

I think you just have to be to be very clear, it helped that we made the decision very early on in planning, communicated to all of our parents and got them on board as well. I have made sure my parents have communicated to my aunts/uncles that it will be child free, and I’ve been told all of my cousins have been able to find child care. Our wedding isn’t until September, so we’ll see what drama happens, but so far no one has been angered by it. I think you just need to be ok if some people aren’t able to attend.

View Quoted Comment What age are considered kids? I have two 14 year old nieces and the groom 8 nieces and nephews age range 2 - 13. I was thinking of only inviting teenagers 13 and up. If i were to invite all ages it would overshadow the small wedding gueslist we have. Almost more kid than adults. 4 teenagers is do able. Is it okay to do a age range.

I don't know your venue, but you might can say that you just can't add children into your guest count for the venue you have chosen (like that would max out your guests?)

But ultimately, it is your wedding. You really don't have to explain. If you do not want children at your wedding, then that's that.

View Quoted Comment What is the next youngest after the 13 yo? I have 2 first cousins who are “younger”, 15 (turning 16 the next day), and 19. They are both invited, but are both my first cousins and will be the youngest there. They will be the only ones under 21.

My cousin had a small wedding, I think maybe 20 people. She let people know ahead of time no children, except her son (maybe 3 then) and her niece (niece was not even a year yet). No one had a problem with it, most understood because of the location and how small it was.

11 years of age

I am not having kids at my wedding either, and I don't see that as a bad thing. I am, however, inviting my FH's nieces to the bridal shower as they are pretty well behaved and are a little sad they don't get to be included on the wedding day (but it was my choice nobody else's). But it's your day and you are allowed to make whatever choices you want to make. Kids seem to get in the way at weddings and parents want to have a good time so they aren't necessarily keeping a close eye so that the kids don't get in the way of others. Stay strong!