TheTindles
Savvy October 2020

Kid-free Wedding?

TheTindles, on November 12, 2019 at 3:59 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 4 31
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Anyone having a kid-free wedding and if so what's the proper way to word your invitation to reflect that?

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  • Amber
    Master February 2020
    Amber ·
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    We are having a kid-free wedding, but we aren't putting it anywhere on our invitation. We think it's rude to send someone an invite and then articulate who isn't invited. Instead we'll have "We've reserved _ seats in your honor" on our RSVP cards" and include it on our FAQ page with "Can I bring my kids?" question. Then we'll just tackle individual issues as they arise, I'm sure there will be a couple.

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    Our wedding is almost child free. We will only have our nieces at the wedding, who are also part of our ceremony. We just didn't invite kids, we didn't feel the need to write on the invitation who wasn't invited.

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  • TheTindles
    Savvy October 2020
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    I definitely would hate to come off rude to anyone that has kids...but I know that without addressing it before hand someone may show up with their child or children....an FAQ page is a great idea.

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  • TheTindles
    Savvy October 2020
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    I wasn't quite sure where this type of request should be stated..someone suggested a FAQ page for all your wedding events and putting it there...that's a great idea.

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  • Amber
    Master February 2020
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    In planning a wedding, I've learned that people assume A LOT about what they're entitled to about your wedding! Including bringing their children, we love kids but just don't want them at our wedding (aside from our flower girls who are my nieces). I think the way we're doing it should be enough to get the point across, but unfortunately people aren't always as cooperative as we'd like them to be! Smiley ups

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  • Sherry
    VIP September 2019
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    Ours was kid free. We did not include it on the invitations because there were only a handful of people invited that had kids. Instead, we included an insert in those peoples' invites that read...

    "Parents, we want you to be able to fully enjoy the wedding so we are requesting that all kiddos be left at home. Thanks so much and we hope you are still able to celebrate with us on our special day"

    We still had a couple people still ask but everyone respected our wishes and got a sitter. We did not have anyone not come because of it being kid free, they took advantage of the time away lol

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  • S
    Just Said Yes January 2020
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    I put on my reception cards: To share in our happiness, please join us for an adult dinner and cocktail hour starting at five o’ clock. It’s subtle yet it’s there and so far so good. I have planned if anyone tries to debate it I’ll say we’d have 13 kids just from the bridal party alone..and joke and say at some point the kids will outnumber the adults!! Let’s not forget the cost of people per plate these days have increased significantly!!
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  • Paige
    Dedicated August 2020
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    We are doing the “we have reserved __ seats” and only addressing the envelope to the adults instead of the whole family.
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  • Ashley
    Expert November 2020
    Ashley ·
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    We are having an 18+ wedding. On our save-the-dates we said "Due to the intimate nature of our wedding, we respectfully request an adult ceremony and reception (18+). Thank you for helping make our day special!" We will also have this on the RSVP part of our website and on our wedding invitations.

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  • K
    Just Said Yes November 2019
    Kristina ·
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    Ours said, “ Although we love your children we regretfully cannot accommodate them at the venue due to restricted numbers. We hope that you will see this as an opportunity to let your hair down and enjoy the party with us!”. We’ll have my nieces and grooms nephews but many of our guest with children were very excited to hear that we were doing a kid free wedding.
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  • TheTindles
    Savvy October 2020
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    That was respectfully quoted. I will be using wording very similar.


    Thank you Kristina!

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  • TheTindles
    Savvy October 2020
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    Sherry that's what I am hoping will happen.

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  • Ivy ORP
    VIP October 2019
    Ivy ORP ·
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    We addressed the invitations only to those invited and stated on our website that we can only accommodate those specifically invited due to space restrictions at our venue. We had zero issues with people assuming they could take their kids but we had a very small guest list with only a few people with children.

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  • TheTindles
    Savvy October 2020
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    I like how you worded that.."an adult dinner and cocktail hour".

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  • Rebecca
    Just Said Yes October 2019
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    I had a kid free wedding, i put an FAQ on my website and explained that as much as we love our friends and family's little ones, we have decided to have a weekend without children, and we hoped that the advance notification would help them be able to celebrate with us. On our formal invite, I just put "adult only event"

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  • Jaimie
    Devoted May 2020
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    We put kid free event on our invitation.
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  • Alyssa
    Savvy September 2020
    Alyssa ·
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    We are only having our children and my sister in laws children...I dont want people to feel like they can let loose and i want the parents to enjoy their night out
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  • Felicia
    Savvy October 2020
    Felicia ·
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    Are you doing a wedding website? We have a FAQ page on our wedding website that addresses everything from bringing a guest, kids, and attire to bypass anybody asking you (even though they probably still will.) Don’t feel bad wanting your wedding to be child free! We kindly told people that we want them to enjoy their night out and not have to worry about kids. Giving people a lot of time to find a sitter is also considered.
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  • Izzy
    Devoted April 2021
    Izzy ·
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    We are having a kid free wedding (aside from our siblings - who will be flower girl and ring bearer) and we won’t be putting it on the invite at all. Our faq page on our wedding website indicates that kids are not invited.
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  • Vannesa
    Devoted October 2021
    Vannesa ·
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    The last wedding I went to had on their RSVP cards and worded it nicely that it was going to be a child-free event.

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