Kid Free wedding with Children in wedding party

I’ve seen that plenty of times and think it’s fine. But I wouldn’t let guests know by putting a “cute quirky poem” on the invitation. Just address the invites to who is invited.

I dont see an issue with it. I would say dont use a quirky poem. Some people may see it as a joke and use it as a way to squeeze their kid into the invite. I would be straight forward and say we ask that our wedding be a child free event

I am doing the same thing! We have three kids between us and feel that they are the most important guests that will be there, since the day is about joining not only us as a couple but our families as well. We also are allowing our only niece and nephew to be invited. All are part of our wedding party, so we said “as much as we love kids, we ask that the only children in attendance are those in our wedding party”.

I wouldn’t put a poem on the invite. Just state it on your website clearly. There are nice ways to state it while still being direct. Our website says “in hopes of keeping the night an intimate affair, we ask that only those addressed on the invitation attend” that way it also covers the folks with a new significant other every other month and bring them to everything lol

Also let your mom, bridal party, close friends know and they can spread the word as it comes up.

I am also thinking about doing the same thing. I feel like the guest should understand and depending on the reception some people would like to enjoy their self instead of having kids running around . I don’t see any harm in it .

You need 0 reason to have only your children there. If there are going to be any kids, they are definitely the most important ones. I’m not a parent but if I was, I would not be the least bit offended if my child was not invited to a wedding, which most adults should know is a primarily adult event. As others said, I would also skip the poem and just put something like “adult only affair” or “adult reception to follow” on the bottom of the invite or in the details card.

If they’re offended, oh well. It’s not like you’re only inviting some kids and not others. Having only your kids at your own wedding is completely within reason, especially since it’s for the ceremony (the important part!). If I was a guest with kids, I would understand. Not my wedding!

Lol if any ones gets offended that your own children are there and not theirs I think needed to reevaluate life hahaha. You can absolutely do this! It’s your wedding so of course you’d want your own children to participate and be there even at the reception (unless you want to let loose and don’t want them there). We are also having a child free wedding but our nieces and nephews will be there no matter how young they are. They are our babies and they will be included.

Anyone*, needs* 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️ Lol

If you want to put a poem on it, do it. Where I'm from, it's just assumed the kids are invited. Putting the parents names only on the invite is not fail safe.

I dont see an issue with having your kids there since they are in the wedding.

It’s fine. You don’t need a “quirky” poem. Honestly that would bother me more than the not inviting children part.

I think there's a big difference between your kids being apart of your wedding party and leaving after the reception starts & your cousin's baby so I'd say that people can suck it up

Me and my FH are doing the same thing. Our nieces & nephews are in our wedding and will stay but as far as the other kids? They just simply can’t come because adults tend to get a little wild lol. But also the kids in our bridal party will be put in another room with my aunt (who doesn’t love to party but loves the kids). So they will be there just not in the same room.

I am having my grandkids in my and they will be leaving right after dinner. I put that is was an adult only wedding on my information card. I believe it says while we love your kids this will be an adult only affair. If anyone is offended by this I am not worried they can just not come. There will be an open bar and I do not want a bunch of kids seeing a bunch of people drink.

We did the same thing with our wedding but the only children that could be there is the ones we approved if they were apart of our intermediate family on both sides. People were offended but it’s our wedding & we are paying for it but I don’t care because this is what we always said our wedding would be like no children that were not apart of the intermediate family.

We are also have a child free wedding except for the bridal party. My fiancé’s nieces and nephews will be there, as well as some of my cousins traveling with children. I’m not going to force them to get childcare when they’re flying over 1,000 miles to be at my wedding. We’re just saying adult reception only and if people are offended because the children in the bridal party are at the reception too bad.

I've learn from the ladies here that being direct and easy is better than anything. Also you just want to be clear on what you want. But be prepared for those that do bring their children just because... I've seen it happen before.

There is a huge difference between your children being at your wedding & other children. If someone doesn’t understand that & gets offended, that’s truly their problem. Your children are there to witness their parents getting married! No further explanation needed lol.

If you want to put a quirky poem, go for it! There is nothing offensive about that. Being direct with your guests is always the best way to handle things. As long as you give them plenty of notice so they can arrange for childcare, it’s totally fine.

We are having only our bridal party children as well, they are our immediate family children (3 of them total). We told everybody that our wedding is adult only. We also explained this on our wedding website, where our RSVPs are, so all guests will again read it & there will be no confusion.

We’re doing the same thing and so far no complaints. I feel like many expect child-free weddings these days.

We had a child free wedding aside from the flower girl (10) and ring bearers (10, 13). We put it clearly on our invite that we weren’t inviting guests children. No one was offended. Those who couldn’t handle not bringing their child (traveling from further without their child, babysitting problems) simply did not come. It is your day and if you do not want other people’s children there, that is your say. Whenever you have children (if you decide to) you’ll encounter the same thing in the future as a guest and remember to be understanding.