Keeping the wedding private

Can you just use your future last name for everything? I did a wedding website and I think I could have worked it out so that my full name wasn't anywhere. Don't share your website on social media either.

Or if you are that worried, you don't have to make one. Sending STD's with more detailed information about time place, and hotel should be just fine. People can figure it out.

No website. with a smallish group for a destination wedding you can keep them informed in other ways.

I mean I would think it was a little strange, but wouldn't question it and would definitely go along. Would you feel better just sending everyone a regular invite in the mail with all the details or make a private group on facebook?

Make a new website, don't use WW or TK or anything like that. Then, password protect it.

It's very possible.

You can password protect a website and only release the information to your guests.

We have a website, but seems people don't really look at it anyways. Do to people arriving on the island on different days, I am sending a "Get Ready" Destination Note Cards prior to departure of the first guest.

My "Get Ready" Note Cards will include a brief timeline with map and times to arrive. We are arriving on the island on a Friday, welcome dinner is that evening, this is when I will hand out our welcome bags because many guest are not staying at a hotel but rather timeshares and private condos all over the island. We have one couple arriving Sat. and Wedding Ceremony is on Sunday.

I thought this will give our close guest a personal touch before departure.

How do you password protect? Are you saying it wouldn't show up in a Google search on my name?

I've also thought about doing it under my Fi's name. I might just do that, though I won't be taking my Fi's name when we marry.

You can make a website with all your real information and make a password for it. Only give the password to select people.

ETA: Just use first names only for your website. Your guests will know who you are. If you use the WeddingWire website tool, you can set up a password very easily. You can also choose to keep your website out of google searches.

This ex sounds uh...intense

We have a website but I've withdrawn the URL from people I know shouldn't see it. I only included it on the formal invitation, and even then, it's password protected.

Are you concerned that your ex might find your website through mutual friends/family? It seems like you've gone to other lengths to make sure he doesn't know where you are.

If you truly don't want to do a website, perhaps a secret Facebook event (invisible to anyone who isn't invited to see it) would work well for you.

Don't use a website. Does everyone have email?

I would set up a non-wedding brand website - you can get a free one at weebly - and have a pretty generic name like "Festivities.weebly.com" or something without your name or mention a wedding. And password protect it, then give the site and password to people you want.

This sounds like a dangerous situation. I agree with @Celia and @MrsA2B. Don't use a website. Email everyone the information. It's better safe than sorry.

I understand your situation. I have lived in an undisclosed location with a restraining order against my ex husband and children's sperm donor for years. I keep very little on line. What you could do is open a Wix page or private Googleplus or Youtube that requires you to give people a password to log in. That way you have control over who is accessing the page.

This might be faux pas but in this situation: what about creating a facebook group or some other kind of online group to where just those individuals would have access to the page?

Ana did you just seriously tell someone else what they should do with their last name? Because an abusive, violent person gets to not only leave a woman scared for her safety, but also gets to make a woman compromise on her personal beliefs and hide her professional and social identity? Hell no.

As a masculine-of-center person who will likely be taking their female partner's last name: that was really snotty and uncalled for, Ana. What other people do with their names is no one else's business.

OP: I wouldn't think it was terribly out of the ordinary for a wedding website to be under a fictional name for privacy reasons. I know tons of people who don't use their real names on Facebook for whatever reason, nobody blinks an eye.

I would skip the web site and just update people in other ways (phone calls, emails, etc.). Also, have you spoken with your venue about not using your photos or info on any social media outlets? Lots of places like to do that for publicity purposes and that could prove dangerous for you as well.