Keeping elopement a secret

Why would you want to keep it a secret? It's not like they won't find out you got married at some point.

Why are you keeping it a secret?

Why are you wanting to keep it a secret? I think you should be upfront and tell people - they may be offended when they find out you lied to them for so long.

A few of my cousins did this. They didn't tell ANYONE.

Their parents were really hurt when they announced, "we're married!" to the whole family.

I'd at least tell your momma!

I always tell my eloping couples to let their parents know. Beyond that? You either want to keep it a secret or you don't.....

Like others, I don't understand why you would keep it a secret. Is it because you want to plan a "real wedding" later on and want to pretend you will actually be getting married on that day? I don't get it.

My best friend since middle school (and my MOH) eloped and told no one. I cannot tell you how pissed I was, still am and it was over a year ago. I would have totally wished her well and been happy with her decision, but knowing would have been really nice too.

Why are you wanting to keep it a secret??

I've told people straight up from the beginning that FH and I will probably elope. Only one person was dismayed, everyone else who's close to us understood and knows our personalities. The fact that we'll probably have our parents and some very close friends there also won't surprise people.

Stop giving details and people will stop caring.

I always thought of eloping as running away and getting married. I’m not close with my family. I thought eloping was the surprise of telling people afterwards. I had no intention of hurting people’s feelings.

A post and ghost? The only logical reason, in my mind, to keeping this secret is due to age. I could be off base, which I may be.

I don’t necessarily want to hide It, I thought It would be nice to surprise everyone afterwards.

No it is not a nice surprise to find out your loves ones ran off and got married.

Post and ghost?

Not age related. My grandparents eloped and I always wanted to.

Family and friends mostly all know we're eloping but no details as far as where or date

My friend kept her elopement secret and slowly (I mean, very slowly--over a period of MONTHS) shared the news with friends and family. Overall about half were extremely hurt and confused by the secrecy and there were some relationships lost. As always, YMMV--but this is an outcome you should consider.

You don't have to give them details, but a heads up that you are actually eloping and not including anyone will be good. Most people do give at least their parents a heads up as to when and where when they elope.

The only people who seem to be so incensed over this scenario are people here.

What in the world does YMMV mean?

I don’t necessarily want to hide I?t, I thought I?t would be nice to surprise everyone afterwards.

This reminds me of a gender reveal party I went to for a friend. Her and the baby's father already knew the gender of the baby but they thought it would be nice to surprise their friends. Honestly, I could care less if she was having a boy or girl as long as they were happy. I just don't see the point.

I think as long as your nearest and dearest friends and immediate family know it is happening, you don't need to tell anyone beyond that or give super intricate details. It would be kinda weird to WITHHOLD information about it from my family and close friends - like I would tell them if they asked... ex. if my mom asked me where we were going and I didn't tell her, she would probably be upset.