Just venting: so indecisive!

The best advice I can give you is to plan a wedding that you and FH will love. Of course you need to keep your guests in mind when it comes to properly hosting them (food and beverages); however, I encourage you to design/plan your save-the-dates, invitations, and theme in anyway you see fit. If I received this, I wouldn't necessarily understand that backstory or meaning behind it - I would just assume it's a themed wedding, and that's OK!

I will say that your save-the-date should not contain this much information though, and certainly not a second page. Your save-the-date is simply an announcement of your date and the general city/region you're getting married in. I would save the specifics (time, venue, etc.) for your actual wedding invitations. Best of luck in whatever you decide to do!

I love the book chapter. It is really pretty.

As a point, you say you want to incorporate your FH into it, but nothing you described seems to be 'his interest.' Since you're going literary feel, could you maybe twist it into a bit vintage/steampunk? You maybe able to incorporate elements of a vintage car, such as gears, designs, etc. I'm not sure exactly how, but if the decor and main elements really show you and not the two of you, you'll likely continue having no buy in from him. The little decoration on the top of your invitation actually will help bend that way too. I love going to weddings and seeing how the couples interests merge into one beautiful image of the both of them. It feel like a real part of their love story, and not just at a fancy/lacy party. With a little bit of creative planning, you may be able to do just that.

I don't really see a problem with the dance to the favorite tv show - other than do you think it will really describe the two of you as a couple when your 60? Some songs do, others don't.

I love the invite sample! I do see where you're coming from. If you've any room somewhere you could always just use it to explain things. For instance at mine, I used the space behind menus as an area to put down fun facts. E.g you could write "my bouquet is made of flowers from my fave book" or some people put it on programs if they have any

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This would be the invitation, not the STD.

Thanks for your input!

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That's a really good idea to add a little blurb on the programs explaining things!

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Whoops, that's my bad for not reading! I think it's great then. I would just change, "Adult Only" to "Adults Only"

I love it! Do the theme you want.
Also hello date twin!

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I just named what came into my mind. I want to do little antique matchbox cars with the books in our centerpieces. We are using his grandmother's oil lamps in the centerpieces too. We took our engagement pictures with his grandfather's collection of antique cars. It's hard to think of stuff to incorporate with him because he gives me no input but I'm trying. I totally get what you're saying.

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Thanks! It's getting closer all the time isn't it?

View Quoted Comment I feel like it's not close enough 😆

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Haha. How long have you been engaged? We got engaged 6/7/18 so it's been a while for us and now I feel like the actual day is sneaking up quickly!

View Quoted Comment January 2019. A lot of vendors in my area don't want to book more than a year out so I'm mostly waiting until October. If I had more responses it'd probably go by faster.

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I've heard that from a lot of people. I didn't have trouble with this but there are a few vendors I'm scared to book until October, like a florist and cake. I have a venue, photog, videog, dj, and linens all booked.

Go with the things that make you and FH happy and that represent you as a couple! Have delicious food and free flowing beverages (alcoholic/non-alcoholic/whatever as long as there's plenty) and if you're getting married outdoors be aware of the weather and have a plan for inclement conditions - that's what your guests are looking for. The other touches should be all you. When we were planning, my mom kept saying that our guests would be coming to the most unique wedding any of them had been to, because we went with the things that represented "us" - venue was a historic home, table "numbers" were happy Disney couples, no bouquet/garter toss, music we enjoy for processional/recessional - but everyone had an awesome time, and we hear about how good the food was, still - and we just had our second anniversary. Be who you guys are.

We are getting married this October and we are having a Harry Potter/Great Hall inspired wedding. My mother has told me multiple times that nobody is going to understand it. she's right. maybe 4 people will get the things that we're doing but we don't care. it's what we wanted. i had made harry potter save the dates, and our invitations were also harry potter inspired, with the hogwarts seal on the back. the only thing people will remember is if the food was good, and if they had a good time. your theme has nothing to do with that. be true to your vision and trust that it will come together.

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Thanks for the reassurance !

Yay, just wanted to say that as a person who loves Harry Potter, I love your invitation sample! We're also planning a Harry Potter wedding and I've struggled with these thoughts as well but then I think about how happy our themed wedding makes my FH and I and I focus on that! There may be only a few people who understand the references but honestly, not many people remember what kind of centerpieces there are at a non-themed wedding, never mind a themed wedding! So just go with what makes you and your FH happy!

I think that if you have loved your dorky self for this long in your life, you'll love your dorky self 20+ years from now, so plan your wedding all out!! It's okay if other people don't 100% get it, it's your vision!

I agree with PP's, make it a day you will both love and remember! If you're worried about having too many things that you'll have to explain, maybe cut back on a few that aren't as important. Also, the invitation is amazing! I can easily tell it's supposed to look like a HP chapter, even if you hadn't said so. I think the dance idea is cute but could be seen as dorky, but do you really care? My dad and I are dancing to Butterfly Kisses then we will break out into the Chicken Dance because he said he doesn't really like dancing and that'd make him happy!

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Thank you for the reassurance !