So this is off topic from my wedding.
A cousin of mine got engaged shortly after me and she is having her wedding the end of this year. I was told by her that it was intimate and not many people were invited, after discussing with family half the family was invited half was not but a decent amount was. I figured she wanted more immediate family members and that is fine understandable her wedding not mine. I was a bit saddened to hear I am not going to lie about that but I accepted it and let it go.
However, I get an invite to her bridal shower or couples shower. I am not sure how to feel about it. I plan to definitely get her a beautiful gift for them but I just feel awkward as we are not (we as in no one in my immediate family) is invited to the wedding but we were asked to attend the shower. I think I was more offended that she sent it to me via social media and stated she did not have my number but I had just sent her an invite to a birthday party in the mail with my phone number on it (confirmed received) and I sent it to her via social media and text prior. She was always short with my invites to her but when the shower came up she was encouraging and hopeful for me to attend. If I am free (from my sons sports games-schedule tbd) I plan to attend but same time I do feel a bit weird as I was a bit bothered she said she did not have my number but she clearly did and that I feel shes encouraging me to go but what reason if there is no care for me to be at the wedding. I am not sure how bridal showers work and invites but I would feel weird inviting people to a shower that you do not want at your wedding.
I know there is no written rule but I would feel bad inviting others to my shower knowing I am not inviting them to my wedding. Just wanted to see what other people thought about this unique situation..I had never heard of before.
