VIP May 2019

Just Needing to Vent

Mandy, on May 16, 2019 at 9:08 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 32

Not looking for pity, just need to get this out. This week has been hell to me. My wedding is Saturday. There's been a 90% chance of severe storms all week on the day of my wedding. I've already had 5 people message me telling me they can't come now. Our outdoor ceremony is going to have to be moved indoors. *sigh*

My photographer was like 20 minutes late to the meeting she set up. I hate, hate people who aren't on time. Now I'm thinking great, is she going to be on time for the amount of time I have paid her for?!

I wanted peach to white ombre nails. I went two places and neither could do a peach color. I'm not a pink person but my choices were limited unless I wanted blah nude or some crazy bright color. So, I settled for the light pink to white. I don't hate it, but I don't love it.

I went to order my cake/cupcakes from Sam's like I'd been planning. Budget friendly, plus they said they could customize about however I needed. Nope. They lied. They have a very specific list of frosting colors and won't make anything other than what they order (the listed colors). Fine. So, instead of my peach/ivory cupcakes like I had planned I have white. Fine. Not the end of the world, but white is so bright to me. I wanted a plain, three tiered semi naked cake. The manager didn't know what a semi naked cake was but told me they could probably do it. Nope, she left me a voicemail saying her decorator wouldn't do it. I got the idea off their reviews on this cake. Sigh. Fine, I'll scrape off the frosting myself.

I got a spray tan today. Told them I wanted a semi darker shade because it will fade. I can't even tell I got a tan. I'm hoping it will get darker, but I think it's done getting darker at this point.

Then, I messaged my hair artist to double check if she wanted us to have clean hair or day old hair. She proceeds to tell me the answer then goes on to explain how her son has a soccer game so she will have to leave early but can bring someone else from the salon (who I have never met or had a trial with). Artist will do my hair, flower girl and a bridesmaid in two hours (ha, yeah right). So, I inform her my flower girl will not be there that early and I most likely won't be there that early nor do I want my hair done 5 hours before my wedding (think like 80% humidity, rain!). My girls are supposed to be there at 10:15, to start on their hair/makeup at 10:30. I have to go pick up things before so I won't be there until later. She needs to leave by 12:30.

We had planned on staying at a hotel the night of the wedding so I booked for my dog to go be boarded the night before the wedding and the wedding night. Now FH is all "let's just go home to our bed and save the money for the honeymoon". He had a 50% code to use at almost any hotel around here so it'd be like $50 to stay somewhere "special", swim in the pool, eat a huge breakfast, etc.

FMIL has called FH like 10 times this week to double check on the times and double check how many will be at rehearsal. The information has been the same for about a month now. Every time she calls, he asks me in case something has changed. She's also invited a few random people from her church that neither of us even know to rehearsal and dinner..and to the wedding.

I am sure there is more, but ugh. I'm so ready for this wedding to be over.


Latest activity by Deborah, on June 14, 2019 at 1:53 PM
  • Deborah
    Dedicated February 2022
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    Yikes! That is a looooooot!!! I hope things will pull together for you in the final stretch. Idk if Glam Squad services your area but if you’re stuck having to wing it with someone you haven’t worked with before they are worth checking out and they come to you! It will work out. I know it feels like your hard work and efforts may be going down the drain. But enough will come together to make your day amazing and beautiful
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  • Lizbeth
    Devoted May 2020
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    Oh Mandy... I'm sorry all of this sucks butt. But you know it's almost there, you're almost there you can do this girl! 😣
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  • Hannah
    Master July 2019
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    Oof that is a lot. You got this though! You've put in all this hard work and you're almost at the finish line! Just try to remember, all of these things pale in comparison to ending that night married to your significant other!
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  • Bridget
    VIP August 2019
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    Well then, I'm sooo sorry your going through all of this but take a deep breath. two more days and you'll be married and all the planning stress will disappear!

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  • Amanda
    Master December 2020
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    Oh my! So sorry to hear about these stressors! Fingers crossed at least the storm changes and gives you a beautiful day!
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    Goodness, sorry you are going through all of this. I wish I had some great words of wisdom but unfortunately, I don’t. Unless you are christian, then I would say pray about it.
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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
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    I’m so sorry you’re dealing with all of this!! 😖 at least in a few days I am sure you will be married and none of this will matter!
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  • Tina
    Super August 2019
    Tina ·
    • Flag dear I'm so annoyed right with you and not dealing with nearly as much stress. Its nice to get it off your chest. I hope you feel a lil lighter now. Whhoooosa. Oh can someone else do the running the day of? That worries me. Lol.
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  • Cristy
    Master May 2021
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    Oh Mandy! I'm so sorry you're having all these issues! Maybe that means the day of, everything will go perfectly. Best wishes to you and your FH. 😘 Almost there!
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  • Anna
    Master June 2020
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    So sorry. It seems like a domino effect for you. can only get better from here.❤

    Put your foot down for your wedding deserve a special night and with the 50% off he will be ok.
    You can always save money another only get one wedding night.
    Board the dog.
    Explain to your hair/makeup artist that since you did book her in advance, and she never mentioned leaving early until would greatly appreciate that she follows through as promised since this is a one time and very important day for you and her son will be playing in another game soon( he Will...many many more.... I know trust me 😆)
    Mother in law is just excited/ nervous ignore her. Ignore random new guests too...its ok...let fmil deal with the issues if any arise
    I agree you should enjoy your day...forget the errands send someone else get your hair and makeup done if your h/mup won't stay any later. You can always touch it up later if needed.

    Or im sure the girls that work with her do the same, if not better work. Most salons have the same grade stylists...especially if she hired them.

    Remember rain on the wedding day is good luck...just prepare for the worst and hope for the best !

    Hugs to you!
    Hang in there!
    It will all work out you will see!
    Just laugh it will be a story for the kids and grandkids someday.
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  • Kat_
    Super October 2019
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    I’m so sorry to hear this! I’m sending you positive vibes right now! Man... that’s a lot. At some point you just have to laugh, right? I love what @Anna said and I think you could put your foot down on a few of these things. You’re handling it like a champ tho! You can do this! And it’s going to be beautiful 💗
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  • Cynthia
    Expert June 2019
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    I am sorry you are dealing with so much at once. Ughh that sucks! I hope things get easier and I hope you can find a way to ease your mind during the craziness.
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  • Chandra
    Master May 2019
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    Oh man, I'm so sorry! That's a lot to deal with. You're so close to the finish line!!!
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  • Alycia
    Super July 2021
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    Out of all of that, my mind keeps going back to “my son has a soccer game”. Is she kidding? You’ve had this booked for months. Very unprofessional and rude to put this stress on you. I’m sorry you are going through this. Book the hotel room. You deserve to have it after all this.
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  • Kiara
    VIP August 2021
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    All i can say is WOW aww honey that's alot and i didn't mind you venting you needed to get that out weither it was saying it or typing it...
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  • Madison
    Devoted May 2022
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    Let it out girl!!! Sorry that all of this is happening. Things have a way of working themselves out and just try to look forward to what the wedding is actually all about. Once you are there and see your man you will hopefully forget everything that you are dealing with. Best of luck to you! Sending you love and good positivity
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  • Cortney
    Dedicated July 2019
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    Oh my, girl - that is a LOT. I'm so sorry you're going through all this - but you really seem to be holding it all together very well.

    Regarding your MUA - do you have a contract with her? That is ridiculous. I would demand that she stay the whole time that she agreed to in advance. How unprofessional.

    Definitely put your foot down with FH and stay in the hotel. Its a special day it deserves a special night afterwards.

    Try not to go into your day just wishing it to be over! I know you're stressed at this point but just try to remember the purpose of the day - to marry your FH! it will be great and beautiful no matter what Smiley smile

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  • Cynthia
    Expert June 2019
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    I agree!!! That seems a little messed up. My hairstylist is missing a family event with her kids and husband because it falls on the same weekend of my wedding and she said she cant go because I have her booked for so long now. So I invited her to the wedding.. she also a family friend so it's not awkward. But still that is very unprofessional!
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    Savvy May 2020
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    Im sorry you are so stressed. Just remember no matter how much goes wrong at the end of the day you will be married to your brst friend. Best wishes❤
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  • Cristina
    Expert April 2021
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    I'm so sorry to hear things aren't coming together smoothly. Sometimes being a bride can be stressful but take some time for yourself to just relax and maybe even do a little spa day even if it's a hot home by just running a warm bath and lighting some candles. Take a few deep breaths and just remember you are getting married and this is a huge next chapter in your life. Smiley smile

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