So I had a profile before this and deleted it, but I'm back on here because I can't take it anymore.
My mom has been bringing up the same issue every month. "Why can't you have more than one flower girl". On my previous post, I had MANY people that tended to side with her saying they couldn't imagine choosing between children (which I get). But I wanted to explain that originally we didn't want ANY flower girls or ring bearers....so having one of each was our way of pleasing her. What a shocker...she isn't satisfied. I also want to point out that my family lives in other countries, and I'm not really close to any of them. (I don't even see them every year or speak to them often)
Every conversation (we've had three of these so far) has gone like this: She says we're being rude for only wanting one of each, then argues with me, finally saying "Forget it do what you want, I don't care. Have only one if you want". Then she comes back a month later bringing up the same topic, it's now a nonstop cycle of: "yes I understand" then, "I don't get why you're being so rude".
She always brings up the fact that she's helping us pay (we're splitting the venue cost with her), and that we have to respect her wishes regardless of how we feel. Again, we are appreciative of her contributing to the wedding costs, and have expressed that with her. But my FH family is also helping us pay for expenses and no one in his family has had any issues with us. (or if they do, they aren't throwing a fit about it and respect our choices).
I'm just emotionally exhausted with her and don't even want a wedding at this point. Is anyone else having toxic family issues while wedding planning, and if so, how are you dealing with it? I don't want my wedding planning experience to be toxic and full of tears. 
