So, I just got engaged (yay!) and I’m trying not to be full on wedding planning mode. I’ve felt like I’ve been keeping it mild by trying to only ask small questions and only like one or two in a day haha. We set our date and it’s 10 months out. I already feel like I’m tiptoeing around planning with my fiancé. Today he told me he’s not really into the planning stuff and isn’t gonna really want to do that part, which I get that’s fine. I’m not asking him to analyze every little detail. He then told me not to plan it all in one day after asking like two questions Haha but he’s apparently already overwhelmed..(This statement came after asking who he wanted to invite and if he wanted to look at any of the Save the Date cards I had pulled up on the PC). So now I’m feeling a little confused and a little stressed because he doesn’t want to plan, but I also know if we wait too long to do certain things we will be more stressed out and I don’t want to just do stuff without his input because it’s OUR day. I’ve only gotten as far as a date and maybe a color scheme and everything else seems to instantly overwhelm him and he doesn’t want to deal with it. I’m trying to only bring up small pieces that are simple (like who do you want to invite?) and not ask him too many questions in a day but I’m also in a place of...well (insert awkward laugh) we need to get some things rolling at least right?
Any advice would be appreciated. I’m not sure how to proceed. Don’t want to stress him out but feeling like we can’t talk or plan anything is stressing me out a little. What’s been your experiences with your finances?
Also side note, I’ve got my bridesmaids picked out and he’s pretty dismissive about picking his. I’m concerned we will have a lopsided party because I have 6 gals I would like to ask and he’s told me he’s not even sure who he’ll ask other than his one friend and maybe his brother. Is it an issue if your wedding party isn’t an even number?? How long can I wait till I need to ask them, I don’t want to wait too long.
thanks y’all
J.
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