Just found out I'm Pregnant!

No advice, just wanted to say congratulations!!! 😊

I know you don't want to hear this and I really am not trying to be a Debbie downer, but is there anyway you could postpone your wedding. Being a new mom is no joke. I had to change my wedding date because they changed the school calender for next year. I was really upset. But everything worked out and I'm glad I did. Now.

Thank you everyone!

I dont think we want to postpone anything. People have already bought tickets and hotel reservations. I think we are just going to keep it as is and have our little one be there with us!

I appreciate ate both sides of the arguments. I am really going to go use on not gaining/ eating more then what is needed. We already eat really healthy so I don’t know if a ton of weight gain is a huge concern.

The thoughts about breastfeeding were great. I would not have had that in mind.

Most places will exchange the dress so long as it hasn't had any alterations done and all tags are still in place. If not you have options, you can do the wedding sooner, or later, but a new dress and sell that one. Or you can save it for a daughter if you have one. Or you can even alter it to become an evening dress for date nights and use the extra fabric to make under garments such as a bra and panty set for the honeymoon. Good luck and congratulations on the wedding and new baby to be

First of all, Congratulations! I have bought my dream dress which is a fit and flare and I live in fear of getting pregnant before October. My wedding is October 20th. maybe check with a seamstress and see if there is anything that can be done with your dress to accommodate some weight gain. Depending on that, you could still be able to fit into it. Perhaps shape wear would help. Some women are able to bounce back to pre-pregnancy weight pretty quickly.

I agree- I feel like maybe pushing back the dream wedding with the perfect dress would be the best option if you can get your deposits back. Have a simple ceremony now (or when your originally planned for your wedding). That way you have time to focus on being parents and not stressed about the dress, feeding, new born at the wedding.
Congratulations on your growing family and with you all the best!!

Bouncing off what someone else had said that I didn’t think to mention. You need to think about what undergarments you will be wearing in the dress. Odds Are you will still be bleeding and will be using pads. Is that something the dress will allow

Congratulations! I think you got good advice here though I would like to point out that eating healthy does not mean you won't gain weight. Every body reacts differently to pregnancy and there are things you cannot plan for. I ate extremely healthy, cut out soda and sugar, and still gained 60+ pounds. I had preeclampsia and swelled like a balloon. Even with breastfeeding I did not go down to my pre pregnancy weight until 3 or 4 months post partum.

I have no advice for the dress but as far as the wedding be kind to yourself. Pregnancy and birth is no joke. Recovery can be a slow and uncomfortable process. Don't try to do too much on that day. If you really can't postpone maybe dial it down to slow and intimate day. Don't be afraid to sit down and relax. Good luck!

I dont even know where to start.

I just had a baby so I know what I'm talking about

You can plan on doing this or that but in reality, pregnancy is absolutely unpredictable

· Weight gain is 25-30 lbs

· My baby was breached so I needed a csection. Regardless of natural birth or csection you will bleed, A LOT, for about 3 weeks straight

· I planned on working out but my body had other plans and my dr told me not to

· After I gave birth I lost 15 lbs in about 2 weeks but I still looked hella pregnant

· My workout clothes which are stretchy did not fit at all

· Took me 8 weeks to start working out

· I wanted to breastfeed exclusively but my milk supply was too low

· Even though I breastfeed I still have not lost the other 15lbs I gained yet

· Babies eat every hour/hour and a half. If you are going to breastfeed you will not have time to get ready, go through the ceremony/reception without stopping to feed him

· You also gotta change the diaper every hour too so be prepared to lug around with the diaper bag, diaper, several change of clothes cause they puke too, a lot.

· Newborns are extremely delicate, won't be vaccinated and will be exposed to the outside world, loud noises, over stimulation etc.

· Hell I didn't even wanna leave my room, let alone get married.

· You could hire someone to feed him, change him, take care of him for the whole day but as a new mom you might not want to

-Oh and he will cry ALL THE TIME

Yes all women are different but a newborn is a newborn for everybody and you absolutely cannot predict any future complications.

What you can do is save your guests time and money (at least some) by postponing now opposed to weeks before or even not showing up the day of

Im sure I could say more but this is just what I can think of now

ETA: you will be absolutely sleep deprived too so you'll probably look like a zombie

View Quoted Comment Yes to all of this! It took me two months to take my newborn to the store let alone a big party with that many people.

I don’t know where you got your dress, but I know when I called David’s Bridal they said they could exchange the dress for a different size if that was needed. So that may be an option for you? And congrats!

View Quoted Comment Not always !! Breastfeeding depletes your calories makes you more hungry.. I'm a breastfeeding mom 3 times over ..

My to you as a mom of 3 kids is 2 eat very healthy during your pregnancy. I did not and I gained 70 pounds with each child I think if I had opted to eat healthy instead of whatever I wanted I wouldn't have gained so much weight I did lose the weight for my pregnancies but it's difficult when you gain so much weight

First Congrats!!

Second, I wouldn't do any alterations just yet. If your dress is big in the chest and waist area, it might work out perfect b/c seriously after having a baby your boobs will be bigger. Good luck to you.

Congratulations! I was able to fit into my pre-pregnancy size 0 jeans, 7 days after a natural delivery. However, everyone is different. I would not do any alternations now. I would stay active and eat healthy and don't fall into the (eat whatever you want trap) and you will be A okay! Congrats again!

Also, although the baby is due a month before the wedding, He or She may decide to come a little late, and if you end up needing a c-section, you may not be able to wear the dress at all. Keep your options open and be very flexible.

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-Oh and he will cry ALL THE TIME

ETA: you will be absolutely sleep deprived too so you'll probably look like a zombie

The above is very true. 7 years later and I am still scarred from the crying and lack of sleep!

CONGRATS! That's so awesome!

I think I can agree with most other mama's out there! I would either push the wedding back a little more, or push it up. That close is going to be super hard on you, and your body.

Good luck!

Congrats! One thing i can say, i have a 1 year old now, i didnt gain a lot of weight while pregnant (20-25), my stomach was gone in about 2 weeks. I also didn't have any issues, i gave birth a week earlier. Every pregnancy is different. I also didnt know i was going to give birth a week earlier until my last doctors appointment, they thought it was medically necessary. Furthermore even though i didnt gain much weight my body definitely changed, My hips and butt expanded ! So although if i had purchased a dress before my stomach would have been fine, but i would have been concerned if y hips and butt fit. lol Im stuck with these hips but depending on your size now not sure how drastically it could effect the dress.

With the due date a month before that is cutting it very close. After birth you will be focusing on healing your body which took about 3 weeks for me. Random pains and well all the other stuff we know that goes on. So losing weight is actually not as big of a deal as all the other elements involved after a baby including engorged hard boobs, stitches, sleep deprivation. But the comment above regarding a c-section that is completely true. I'd be concerned about keeping the date so close especially when we know babies come when they are ready. Sorry if this was too specific. I am a new mom and sometimes keeps it "too real" lol. I'd exhaust all elements with altering your original dress and maybe keeping it and getting a back up dress.

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Yes! exactly, i stayed in the house for a month straight with my little guy. I was so sleep deprived when i went out to the post office i left my car on the entire time i was inside. I also went to get food and drove off without it. Body soreness that month after. I could not do that and expect a wedding right after oh no! You are so true about working out! Its easier in the beginning however later on, working out with a FOOT in your rib cage is NOT fun! So unpredictable, glad you kept it real as i often do on this subject. There is also a whole bunch left out of this that i think is best kept quiet to avoid fear lol

I agree with OG Gretchen.
My births have been all C sections. And for me it took several months to heal and to lose the weight. I would suggest postponing the wedding a few months to be on the safe side.