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Christine
Dedicated April 2020

Just a random question

Christine, on January 16, 2020 at 9:03 PM

Posted in Family and Relationships 25

Would you attend a church where your husband married his first wife ? Would you get married at a church your fiance once gor married at before you?
Would you attend a church where your husband married his first wife ? Would you get married at a church your fiance once gor married at before you?

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  • J
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    Judith ·
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    If you belong to a congregation, are there regularly for services, and you do not live in a city, then often another church of the same denomination may be many miles away. And after you are married, do you go back to it? Or spend the next 10 years or more driving 3 towns/ 40 minutes to the alternative church? It seems silly if you are already going to the church where your fiancé was married before, to avoid it just for the wedding. It it is a B and B or hotel or other venue, it would be easy to choose another. But why not be married in your regular church? You are giving a ridiculous level of importance to a wedding that happened long ago, and the marriage failed. Why does his ex have such power? She is not haunting the place, is she?
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  • Christine
    Dedicated April 2020
    Christine ·
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    Great point of view. We actually do not attend this Church, I've personally only been to it when they had a family fun thing and we had taken our kids . I'm really reading all points of views here because I honestly want to do the right thing and not over react! The church I go to is a hour drive and I would marry there but you have to do couseling through them amd we had already started couseling through someone else . But we do have a venue already but this has really been in the back of my mind.
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  • Jennifer
    Super October 2020
    Jennifer ·
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    I would not get married at the same church. As far as attending the church for services in the future, I wouldn't see that as a big deal if that is where your FH has been going for years.

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  • Christine
    Dedicated April 2020
    Christine ·
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    Thank you everyone for your insight. It really helps to get others outlooks on things Smiley smile
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  • Kari
    Master May 2020
    Kari ·
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    Christine, I think you should trust your gut. Its your wedding and if you feel getting married at the church where your FH was married previously makes you uncomfortable, I think that is a very reasonable thing to feel. If you have no strong connection to the church then I would definitely look at other venues.


    My FH and I chose a venue we had never been to before because we wanted our wedding experience to be uniquely ours and to both experience it for the first time in the same way.

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