Christine
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Christine, on January 16, 2020 at 9:03 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 25
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Would you attend a church where your husband married his first wife ? Would you get married at a church your fiance once gor married at before you?

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  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
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    I would choose a whole new venue. Not horribly superstitious but why start a new life with someone at a place where the last was not a success. Plus only memories of the former would remain I feel.

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  • Jasmine
    Rockstar February 2021
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    Yea I would definitely change it up.

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  • Shelly
    Devoted May 2020
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    I personally wouldn’t get married at the same church but I am also not superstitious so I don’t believe in curses lol. I only think it would be odd for members of the first wedding to come there and be reminded of the marriage that didn’t work out. But either way if it’s your church and you want it I say go for it.


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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    I would not.
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  • Christine
    Dedicated April 2020
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    At first I wanted to get married there. It's a huge Catholic church and beautiful. We had went to an event they had there and looked around! ( I had no idea he got married there at this point ) and then he said he would like to start going to that church with the kids and I and of course I'm all for it. I'm not Catholic but I dont care to try it since he 2as raise Catholic. But then I was going through his photo albums trying to find a picture of his mother for our in memory table and came across the newspaper clip of his marriage and his invitations and it's the same church . So I expressed I didnt feel.comfortable going there where he made a vow to another woman and he says I'm over reacting a church is a church . So I need to know I'm not over reacting.
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  • Jaimie
    Expert May 2020
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    I wouldn't wanna get married there either.
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  • Barbara
    Dedicated January 2020
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    I would notget married at the same place as my FH and his Ex wife. That is an old chapter of their life. I would want a new journey for us.
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  • Chrysta
    Super November 2020
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    Absolutely not
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  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
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    I think that is the male logic brain and while yes he is correct it is just a church but for women we are emotional and things mean something to us. I would not want to be married in a place where married his ex. I just feel like he professed his forever to someone else and to do that with you is not cool. I would suggest that he continues to take his kids to that church but I say get married elsewhere.

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  • Melle
    Champion June 2019
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    I wouldn't. I mean I'm also not superstitious but I just feel like I'd want to have my own story and start
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  • Anna
    Expert April 2020
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    Don't kill me but sadly I am. My fh and i meet there. Before i meet him, I had already been attending mass for years. My 3 baby sisters got baptized there. Its something that has been bugging me but he also tells me its no big deal. But its too late to change anything and i honestly am just want to get married to him. But it is a lot to think about. Right now we don't have a permanent priest, so we might find another parish. So i might not end up getting married there after all.

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  • Jennifer
    VIP September 2020
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    Ummmm no.


    Marry the person in a new place. Start fresh.
    My fiancé’s ex wife married him and then her second( also now an ex) at the same place... And they were both named Erik/Eric!!!! My dad married my mom on February 14, and then married my stepmom( whom I love btw!) on February 14! Annnnd they are both named Patricia!!
    It shows the lack of thought and IMO respect for the one they are marrying to do that crap!
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  • Jeanie
    Rockstar February 2020
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    You mentioned that this is a Catholic Church. Before you get all stressed over this, you should check and see if they will even marry you there. You said you weren’t raised Catholic, so that alone may prevent them from marrying you (I’ve seen it happen). Also, if he didn’t have his prior marriage annulled by church, he is technically still married in their eyes. I’m not catholic and don’t know all the rules, but I can tell you that I’ve seen a lot of people have problems when trying to marry into a Catholic Church. I can understand your hesitation about getting married in the same church as he did before, but if it’s going to be impossible, or a huge hassle, there’s no sense getting stressed over something that isn’t an option.
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  • Christine
    Dedicated April 2020
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    We already have a venue . I was thinking of getting married there ( My choice) until I found out he already did. IT was over 20 years ago BUT STILL to me I dont eant to get married where he made viws to another woman and they even broke them . But hes now wanting m to attend church there and I'm open to the religion just that Church. Hes 53 and been through all the process of all that . His first wife wasnt Catholic either but his family is and that's where they had to get married back then , its where his dad and mom got married and all his sisters and his dad when he mentioned we were getting married , He wants us married in a Catholic Church . Hut as my date gets closer now I'm wondering if ai was over reacting because that Church is beautiful qnd it's whattheir family believes in strongly tand i wouldn't mind raising the kids up Catholic . That's the only one near us though .
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  • Andrea
    VIP April 2020
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    Yeah, there's no way I would do this. Just too weird to me. A venue should be special and unique to the couple, this idea just seems recycled in my mind. That's how I would see it if I was in this situation!

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  • Christine
    Dedicated April 2020
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    His dad married his now new wife the same day he married his wife that died. To me I found that kinda odd. But to each and their own
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  • Christine
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    I guess I kinda see why you and him would want to because you met him there.
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  • K
    Dedicated October 2019
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    Depends on how much it meant to them. I don't care about religion, so if my husband had wanted to get married in a particular church I would have agreed because it made him happy. But if it's just out of convenience I'd find a new place.

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  • Kristin
    Savvy November 2020
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    I don't think a Catholic Church would even perform a second wedding, unless the first one was annulled.

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  • Kari
    Super May 2020
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    Considering I really wanted a venue neither of us had been to a wedding at before (let alone one where one of us had been married), that would be a hard no from me.

    If you were religious and belonged to a church and you met your S/O at church and that church has been where your S/O was previously married, then I could see still getting married there because the church has significance to both of you.

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