July 2020 Weddings

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Hi there!

I'm in Maryland too and have a July 12th wedding. What venue do you have if you don't mind me asking? My venue; The Villa won't even let us book the same month we paid for next year. I decided to contact the attorney general/ Maryland consumers department with hopes that they could help get me a refund of some kind.

View Quoted Comment That’s horrible! What are they offering you? This is out of your control. I hope you get a resolution. My venue is Antrim 1844, love them! But they aren’t letting my cancel or postpone yet unfortunately. I may follow your lead if I have the same issue.

View Quoted Comment Is the Antrium planning on refunding you if you have to cancel. My venue is only offering to waive their $2,000 rescheduling for up to April 1, 2020. After that you have to pay the $2,000 fee to reschedule. Like they're doing something. I contacted the attory general this evening so nothing yet.

View Quoted Comment Yes they are. I also have the option of cancelling and getting all my deposits back if there is a limit on people. That’s crazy, what if you cancel? You should let them know you’ve contacted them and see if they give you a better response. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this!

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I honestly wouldn't worry too much about it. My planner and I decided to hold out until the end of this month to make a decision... but we have hope considering the circumstances that VA is about to reopen under phase 1. We're hoping to be in phase 2 by the time our wedding rolls around. Just check for your state guidelines and monitor closely. Good luck! We got this.

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My future father in law is an attorney and wrote to my venue to call them out because they were trying to charge me all this additional money to move my date from June 2020 to June 2021. If it doesn't say in the contract that you will be charged a rescheduling fee, then you should not be paying a dime.

View Quoted Comment July 25, 2020 Wisconsin wedding as well! Our wedding coordinator told us to continue as normal, but I’ve been so stressed, also having nightmares. I sent our our invites last week, 200 people. I did put a Covid disclaimer on our website. If we chose to postpone, it will definitely be for next year July. I’m in Central Wisconsin where there haven’t been a ton of cases. We do have people traveling though. Still unsure about what we will do. I will probably have to make a decision at the beginning of June. Feeling for all of you stressed out brides ❤️

7-17-20 in Albany NY and still holding out hope. Our governor listed for phases this week, can’t tell if weddings are in phase 3 or 4. We will likely order invites and see what happens in late May before we send. We still have a “hold” on a backup day in December, but can’t go to next year or we re-pay original $2k deposit

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Hello Taylor

I hope it works out well for you and there will be the wedding that you dreamed of. I understand the stress.

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much! ❤️ I see you changed your date to July 24, 2021. That’s our back up date currently. I don’t know why, but I feel like if I postpone right now, everything will be alright by July 25. But if I don’t postpone, it won’t be okay by then. I just hate the not knowing of it all. I will probably have to postpone and I will be right there with you crying it out, but also staying positive and hopeful! What has been the most stressful part about postponing?

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The most stressful part of postponing has been the waiting, the uncertainty. In the Bay Area they are easing some of the shelter in place order. So obviously in my head I start to think what if we could have continued with the wedding. I started second guessing. What keeps me grounded though is talking to my fiance who tends to be more logical. Even with the easing of the shelter in place, the social distancing may continue for some time. Then I start to think of all the reasons why we did postpone; family members who are older and I would not want to put them at risk. My dress is at the bridal shop, my alteration was scheduled for early April, I don't even know when i would be able to get it altered at this point. I was having shirts made special by my aunt who does not live in the country. I do very much understand the will it be okay or not.

I will send some positive energy your way.

Wedding date 07/25/2020, in Perkasie PA inviting 300 people. We have people traveling mainly from South Jersey and New York City, then about 50 people flying from San Fran, LA, Hawaii, Norway, Florida, & Arizona. We officially decided to postpone today. We are lucky that our venue and main vendors are available for the similar dates 07/17 or 07/24 of 2021.

My fiancé and I do believe this issue will resurge and we may go through all of this again next year. But in the mean time, I feel so much less stressed. What finally changed my mind was envisioning everyone in masks and no one on the dance floor. And even if next year we are still dealing with COVID issues, at least in the mean time we can get excited for the small ceremony we will still have this July 25th. Depending on what restrictions allow, we'll host a ceremony & socially distanced outdoor dinner & karaoke in my parents' backyard! (the original wedding I wanted anyway!) And this way our grandparents will be able to attend and enjoy!

Best of luck to everyone! I know I was going to punch someone if I heard "your wedding will be magical no matter when it happens!" Like yeah, no duh, we all know that. So I'll say that this sucks, I hope you have a good support system, and even if it is a choice of precaution, you may feel way better after deciding to postpone. Trust me, I cried for weeks over this ridiculousness and the ultimate decision. So yes, it sucks. Cannot emphasize that enough. Still, The Rolling Stones put it best: "you can't always get what you want but if you try sometimes, well, you just might find you get what you need!"

Marissa

We were going to have July 11, 2020 but we just made the call to postpone until July 10, 2021. Everything is still so unsure. Everyone in my fiancee's family lives on the east coast and would have to fly. Almost all of them were sending their RSVPs as no, erring on the side of caution. We finally admitted it was best to wait. We're still going to have an elopement on our date and the party will be next year.

View Quoted Comment Sorry to hear it. My fiancé and I had the same 7/11/20 date and decided to postpone to 7/10/21 a few weeks ago, and were lucky to be able to coordinate all of our vendors on the new date. Just know that you did the right thing, and try to find ways to get excited about the new date...

I was originally set to marry on April 5 and postponed for July 12, 2020.....

At the end of March when we realized there was no way April 5 would work we felt confident the situation would improve by July! Now, things are somewhat better but we are still under stay-at-home orders until the start of June in NJ.

I really don't want to postpone again.... I expect I'll have to make adjustments, i.e., masks (looking at ordering ones with our monogram and/or wedding date on them from Etsy), alter seating arrangements, plated service vs. buffet or have extra servers to "man" each buffet station depending on recommendations of health officials, etc.

I'm so over this. I just can't anymore. I'm afraid I will be forced to postpone again (I live in NJ), and I seriously don't have the energy for this roller coaster. With or without a reception we are getting married on July 12 by our rabbi. And if we can't party on July 12? We'll do it on our first anniversary or something.

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My date is July 10, 2020 and we are also strongly going to consider postponing and maybe doing an elopement/city hall ceremony on our original date and have the reception next year. This is the most stressed I have been and I really appreciate this community of brides who are going through the same roller coaster.

View Quoted Comment Hi! I am in Bay Area too. Why is your dress still in the shop? They don’t allow you to pick it up? I picked up mine on 21st of April. They open only for pickup. One customer at a time. Then I went to my 1st alteration on May 1st. One customer at a time too.

View Quoted Comment I thought about doing something like this but I dont know how to do it. Are you thinking of still celebrating a bit after your elopement? I thought of eloping this September & still having like a little party in our back yard with only a few people.
If you have your reception next year will you wear the same dress? Or how does that work cuz its stressing me not knowing how to do this

I'm sorry folks but things will absolutely not be "fine" by July. If you'd like to hold on to having your wedding in the way you envisioned (read no masks or gloves, free and safe guest mingling, original guest count, no social distancing etc) 2020 is not the year to do so. If you're fine with making adjustments in all those areas then maybe it could work, but even then we're doing such a terrible job with controlled reopening in the majority of states that I really think we're in this for the long haul. Most countries that have recently reopened have seen a resurgence in cases, including Wuhan. I also think it's kind of selfish (totally my own opinion) to basically strong arm guests in to coming to what is essentially a party when loss of life and employment has hit so many people so hard. It sounds harsh and all of this really sucks, but if we're being realistic, erring on the side of caution, and putting guest safety and health above our own desires, 2020 really isn't our bridal year :-(

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We are getting married in August in downstate NY and I totally feel you. Our original date was set to be May 30, after a 20 month engagement. I'm trying to continue to be thankful that I'm worrying about this instead of sick family members or feeding myself, but I'm human and our wedding obviously means a lot to me. I am about to turn 33 and we were planning to try for kids this winter, so postponing to 2021- especially with the uncertainty around it - is not something we are willing to do again. I am big on planning so I have been making backup lists of close family and friends for if we are only allowed to have 50 people, another list for if we have to do it with only immediate family with a priest in our yard, etc. Absolute worst case scenario is we will cancel the party and I will wear my dress at an anniversary. -sigh-.