Jewelry

If you are requiring or that they wear something specific, Yes. If they can choose their own jewelry, No.

If you require a certain look then you pay for it. If you don’t care, then they provide their own. It’s not a gift if it supposed to be worn for the wedding and they likely will not wear it afterwards.

View Quoted Comment I agree completely. If no specific jewelery is required then they can either buy it themselves or wear something they already own (for example, "wear silver jewelry and no long earings"). If you want them to be wearing something specific then you should provide it (for example, "buy x necklace and y earrings in this specific color/stone").

If you are requiring a specific piece(s) of jewelry then you should pay.

I am, so I'm paying for my bridesmaid's jewelry, in this case earrings and a necklace.

If you are requiring something specific and you don't want them to choose then yes. If they have the freedom to choose whatever, they should pay for it.

If the bride wants them to wear matching jewelry or something specific, then yes, absolutely, the bride is responsible for purchasing the bridesmaids jewelry. If they can choose their own jewelry, then no, the bride is not responsible for purchasing it

Thanks everyone

I agree with the others - if you want something specific, you should pay for it. If you don't care, then you don't need to.

As a bridesmaid, the worst option has been the bride choosing to not buying anything but then policing what we wear. The bride wanted us to be wearing *similar* but not identical necklaces, which ended up being a lot more work for us than if she'd just bought two cheap necklaces that were adjacent but not the same and handed them over. Instead we had to send her photos of every necklace we had to work out what would look most similar to each other, while she continued to claim she didn't care at all (when she clearly did).

I am paying for my bridesmaid's earrings because I saw them when I saw mine and thought they were pretty and matched well with the ones I bought, but I don't care what other jewellery they wear, and so won't have any input on that.

If you wanted them all to wear coordinated/matching jewelry, then yes. I left my bridesmaids on their own for jewelry and shoes because they were four very different people, and I wanted them to let their own personalities show even though they were all wearing the same dress.