??Jealous Bridesmaid/Bestie:(??

I'm sorry- I cant believe the nerve of this girl. You set your date in Oct- had you booked the venue or just thinking about it? She decides to do that same date- hell no!! That is not a friend in my book. It seems like she is icing you out of her wedding and then giving her an excuse for her and her FH to bail out of yours. I would either end the friendship or call her out on her BS and see what she says or does. Ain't nobody got time for that!

Kierra- I went through something very similar. One of my best friends planned her wedding on the same date as mine.. and hasn't spoken to me since she booked her venue.

It sucks. But sometime's weddings bring out who people really are. If she's not going to be a real friends.. call it a loss and focus on the ones who are.

I'm sorry guys I'm 23 years old. I'm new to the site and I'm on a stupid android so it's crashing and when I submit something it says not submitted but it submits anyway which explains the double thread but that's technology I guess. I just don't want to end a friendship because of this. I've tried to give her a way out of the wedding but she keeps saying why would I drop out of it

...and what's a troll?

@Kierra a troll is someone who starts drama on the internet on purpose.

ETA: They usually don't go through the time to add a picture, so a lot of people don't like reading posts by people without a picture.

That makes sense. I hear the Android app still isn't updated and still sucks.

I understand you don't want to lose a friendship over a wedding. It does seem silly to let a long friendship go away because of planning for one day of your lives. Just avoid talking about details with her. I don't have any other advice than that. Maybe some of the other girls could help beyond what they've said. It's tough. Good luck.

Also, I don't know if you are using the mobile website or the app, but the website is better. The app does crazy things sometimes.

Lol well that explains it...I'm on the app

Thanks everyone!..well the ppl that did help

So about your bridesmaid:

Like a lot of other people said, just don't tell her any more details. Have her show up on your wedding day in her dress and don't expect anything else, since it doesn't sound like she wants to do anything anyway.

I hope it goes well. It sounds like she is the type of person who will make any conversation into a fight and you might have to end your friendship :/ Let us know how it goes, though. This community grows close with people they see regularly and you'll see that people often start asking about updates if they hadn't heard an update from a regular regarding a problem. Which reminds me of an update I need to ask from someone about two weeks ago

The thing is...I don't know if I trust that she will go to get fitted for the dress and pay for it so I know I'm going to have to keep up with that as well...but i guess that I will have to

Thanks pancakes! I will do that. It may help the stress level

Some people just can't be talked to, and it seems likes your friend may be that way. Friendships come & go. I think you need to give her some space. Let her do her planning and you do yours. She will give you a call when she realizes no one else wants to talk about weddings with her, then hopefully you can mend things. Personally, I would NOT have changed my date for a friend - so you are a better friend than me lol. Good luck!

Maybe time for a new "bestie" (assuming you and FH aren't best friends yet). My childhood best friend and I fell out the first year of college she tried doing everything I did (same everything?: school, clothes, guys, orgs). My mom would always tell me she was jealous. We split soon after we went off to college. I've known her since I was 4 and its still hard because she were so close.

Sometimes you can't have it both ways, I hope the friendship will be ok, but weddings do weird things to people, and IMO jealous is the most intense and hard to deal with of all emotions!

she's told you to have someone standing by 'just in case' in the wedding party and she's not inviting you to things or coming to yours- sounds to me like she's trying to tell you something.

if it was me, I'd speak to her and tell her 'since you're planning a wedding too, maybe it's best for you to step down since you'll be so busy- you'll need lots of time for you own wedding, and I know how taxing it can be to be a bride!' if need be, give her a time limit, let her know what it is and if she doesn't decide by then I'd plan on her not being a bridesmaid.

can you or your groom speak to her groom to get a better idea what's up and what you can count on? often when a female friend is acting like this, I've found it best to go speak to the boyfriend or husband. they tend to just tell it like it is, then you can just get on with it!

call me a meanie, but you don't have time for these games, and I think she's playing them.

I hope you can stay friends, and hopefully she'll be mature enough to do so. but if she's being this competitive now, there's a good chance she'll be that way after you get married too! 'we've got the better car....we've got the bigger yard, MY kid learned to say mama first, learned to tie shoes first, MY kid is going to a top rate college and yours isn't!' just do what you can do, hopefully she'll get her head on straight after she's done being a bride. I feel for ya! good luck!

She sounds crazy.

StitchingBride thank you for that Bc you hit the nail on the head with that!!! AthenaKay so did you lol

Kierra I have wedding party meetings also. We go over everything and girls look forward to the next one. I planned the first one and 2nd for after they purchased their dresses. They now want to meet monthly until the wedding. Their idea Not mine but We have a blast so keep ur meetings girl. Anyway.....she's jealous so don't discuss ur plans with her At All

Oh yeah lol if I did do that I would keep them...other people's opinion doesn't matter to me when it was irrelevant to what I was asking...it's ridiculous to them...not me! Thank you though, it keeps everyone in the loop...I may pick that idea up lol thanks