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January wedding - when do I send out invites?

Cavan, on September 20, 2011 at 3:51 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 10

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FH and I are in the process of completing our invitations. But I have no idea when to send them out. I know that the general consensus is to mail them 6-8 weeks before the wedding and have the RSVP date 3 weeks after you mail them. If I went with that theory my invites would be mailed at the end of November and then RSVP's to be returned in mid to late Dec. With the crazy Christmas rush I do not want my invite to get lost in the Christmas card shuffle and I think very few people will remember to RSVP during the holiday season. Nor can I blame them, I hate the idea of harassing people at Christmas to get their RSVP mailed out.

My numbers have to be into the caterers the first week of January. Does anyone have any suggestions on what I should do here? Should I send them out in late October or early November and attempt to have RSVP's back by the first week of December?

Thanks!

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Latest activity by Marie, on November 14, 2011 at 4:47 PM

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Patricia · on September 20, 2011 at 3:56 PM
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I'd send them out early november and try to get them back by the first week of december...

I'm sending mines out on October first and RSVP deadline will be November 11th
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MekMek · on September 20, 2011 at 3:56 PM
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I'd send them out mid Oct to avoid the hoilday hustle/bustle and hopefully save you from making a few phone calls.
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J&R · on September 20, 2011 at 4:00 PM
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Was just going to suggest what MekMek suggested - mid-October. Beat the holiday rush. Heck, around here, there was Halloween decor in the store windows by the end of August!
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b · on September 20, 2011 at 4:33 PM
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I think I'd send them out mid-October as well. That way they will be received before everyone goes into holiday mode.
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dragonfly726 · on September 20, 2011 at 5:43 PM
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I'd send them out mid-november and ask for the RSVPs back by Dec 10 or so. That way it isn't TOO early for guests to know what their plans are, but they should be mostly returned to you before the heavy holiday mail starts to come in.
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ashlee · on September 20, 2011 at 6:24 PM
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Hellooooo almost date twin! LOL -- our wedding is jan 28 annnnd a DW.... i too am very weary of the invites getting lost in the holiday card and travel shuffle.... i am actually about to order mine (YAY!), and plan on sending them out mid-late october. especially given that ours is a destination wedding, people generally know further ahead of time if they are traveling or not... congratulations! )
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Margaret Sneddon · on September 20, 2011 at 6:37 PM
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You are wise to be thinking about the holiday rush. It probably makes sense to send the invitations a little earlier than you otherwise might. On the other hand, you don't want to send them so much in advance that people forget. You might consider giving them a heads up by sending "Save the Date' cards in advance followed by the invitations in early November. People really don't start sending Christmas cards before December do they?
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Caitlin · on September 20, 2011 at 6:44 PM
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Hi date twin Im sending mine out mid oct with rsvp's due dec 1st. I think that gives people a lot of time to get back to me. I hope all your plaining is going good!
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Celia Milton · on September 20, 2011 at 10:54 PM
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Early november/late october and make the rsvps on Dec 1st.
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Marie · on November 14, 2011 at 4:47 PM
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I am getting married Feb 4 and sending out invites to guests receive before thanksgiving and my birthday. That way there will be a buzz in the air about the wedding before the holiday fever kicks off. I started feeling self-conscious because it's 10 weeks and not 8, but I realize it's wiser than waiting until people confuse may confused the invite with a holiday greeting card from my parents.
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