Jack & Jill Shower w/ no Gifts

Yep, that would be rude. The point of a shower is to "shower" the bride (and groom) with gifts.

So not traditional that you got married last year?

Yes.

Why are you having a shower (gifts or no gifts) if you were married on 11/15/14?

I do not like honeyfunds or asking guest to pay for it. Here is why:

1. How is there absolutely nothing you need? You can't upgrade towels, sheets, small kitchen utensils? You literally don't need anything (I call BS).

2. Its very rude to ask guest for just straight cash. Tacky!

3. Your honeymoon is not a necessity. Its a privilege. Just because you get married doesn't mean you automatically get a trip. You plan and save, don't ask your guests to cover this expense.

If you don't want many things make a small registry (even 10 items is sufficient). And people will get the hint and just give cash. Then you can use it towards whatever you want.

ETA: This won't go well here. And your date? Troll?

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Yes. Rude.

If you don't need anything then don't have a shower. The purpose of a shower is to "shower" the bride with gifts. Opening envelopes of money in front of everyone does not sound like a good idea. And it is always rude to ask for money.

I thought I was rude to do so, that's why I posted the question on this forum.

Date of my wedding was pushed back due to a death in the family.

As I do not want any gifts/money, my next option would just be an engagement party. I just want everyone to get together to meet one another prior to the wedding festivities.

Id go engagment party route. I also raelly dont like showers either. Asking people to "shower" you with gifts is fairly tacky in my opinion.

An engagement party would be appropriate in that case.

Definitely do an engagement party instead!

People will give money if they want, you dont need to tell them to. I had a medium/large registry and the vast majority of our gifts at the shower were money.

Create a small registry to upgrade things you already have or things you wouldn't buy yourselves. We added a margaritaville blender and actually got it. You never know what your guests will want to get you

If it's simply a get together for people to meet then just have a party. It doesn't have to have a label on it.

Thank you all for your input! It helped!