Hi, first time posting. I feel like I’m losing my mind and I have been engaged for exactly 4 days. We’re looking to plan a summer 2020 wedding, so we’re jumping into things. My FH and I are both 23, so we didn’t have much saved for a wedding, but were willing to have something small ($10k). My parents said that was ridiculous, and that they would pay for a big wedding, around $35-40k. My mom is currently recovering from a small elective surgery so she was bored, so I asked if she wanted to look at venues online with me. Within a day, she told me that she booked a meeting for a venue I sent her, on a weekday when she knows I can’t go, and it’s fine if I’m not there.
It’s only escalated from there. She found a DJ (no venue, no date) who is contracted with a venue management company, so she cancelled the other meeting and made a new meeting with another venue. Now she’s getting mad at me for requesting info from venues I like (because “it’s confusing for both of us to be contacting them”) and is insisting that I can’t book tours without her because venues won’t want to explain things twice. But it’s fine for her to book things without even telling me, apparently. I finally blew up and asked her if she was the one getting married now, which she responded by saying that I asked her for help, and it’s her money so she gets a say.
Sorry for the rant. I just need reassurance that she is way out of line and maybe some advice on how to deal with this!?
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