It's Rude

Thanks no my aunt will def know since we are a small family. She is place with the family. Oh the last time i saw my uncle's cousin was when my cousin came up here to visit August 2015. Yup a yr and a half ago. After 2 times going to her house to see my cousin we have no contact whats so ever. How are you even considering of going to a wedding that you arent even close to us. That's insane to even suggest when my aunt should know my uncle's cousin and i don't talk. I went to her house to visit my cousin is not like i would go every once in a blue. Come on. I am not planning to call my aunt. Im leaving it as that. Its really rude to call me and tell me that.

Just say no. It's your wedding. You need to do what you want to do. If you don't feel comfortable then don't. I mean you invited the people you invited for a reason and if you would have wanted them there you would have invited them previously. So just say no

I'm having the same issue with someone asking to pay for their son to come and when I explained that space is the issue I'm was told "well this is her minor son". NOT MY PROBLEM. FH's family has been an absolute nightmare with this guest list. People want to give away their invitation to uninvited people because they can't make it. NOOOOO!

Anyway, just stand your ground. Do not let anyone bully you into inviting them. No is a complete sentence.

"Oh, sorry they can't make it! Yeah, no, Auntie, no substitutions but give them our best."

This really is a huge issue... I had invitation issues but it was mostly people upset about people I invited.. My family and I have had issues since my mom passed (long story short, I was executor and all they wanted was money) and I invited every single relation so that there weren't any more reasons for hard feelings. Luckily none of the ones I really didn't want there are coming. Not one single person tried to invite anyone or invited themselves. I am going to count us as lucky.

Yeah it's just crazy how inviting guest will be an issue since no one is paying for it. I always thought a wedding is celebrating those close to bride and groom. I don't understand how some just assume it's a party. I told my DF to chose 2 people if not if it's OK to ask my mom to invite 2 of her friends since she never asked to invite. He said he will call his aunt. He's a staller so IDK if he will or not. Our invites will be send by May and respond by July 1st. His friend broke up with his gf and told DF to take her off the guestlist so DF is going to ask him if he's sure.

Now that I know they are not coming. Do I still send an invitation with my uncle's name and my cousin's wife knowing they aren't going? My sister's bf as well since he isn't going either?

Just because you have some "no's" doesn't mean you have to fill those seats. most people want less people to come anyway. Besides, you don't have to invite anyone you don't want to.

Exactly it's not like I am very close to a lot of people. We made a guestlist of 50 cause I wanted a small intimate wedding.