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Is two years too long for an engagement?

Christine, on October 19, 2019 at 8:13 PM Posted in Planning 2 120
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Me and my fiancé got engaged on October 4th and we really wanted to have an October 10th 2020 wedding but we couldn’t find any venues we liked with that date available let alone any dates in October 2020 so we decided to push it out another year to get a venue we wanted for October 2021. I was just wondering if 2 years is a long time or will it go fast for us? We’re both almost 30 so we really wanted to get married ASAP. And how soon should we send out save the dates for a wedding 2 years away?

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  • Amanda
    Savvy March 2021
    Amanda ·
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    I don't think two years is too long. Some people intentionally plan their wedding two years out. I think it just gives you more time to plan, budget and prep which is a plus. Not to mention time flies by. It seems like it was just the beginning of Summer and now the stores are decorated for Christmas!

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    Master July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    I have seen a lot of people on here that have 2+ year engagements, but that long isn't for me. My husband and I got married after being engaged for 11 months. We knew we wanted to get married as soon as possible as we want to start a family and I wasn't willing to have children until we were married. It is totally a personal choice. You have to decide if you would rather have a venue you love or would you rather be married sooner. As for save the dates, you have a while before you need to send them out if you aren't getting married until 2021.
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  • Sexypoodle
    VIP October 2021
    Sexypoodle Online ·
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    Our engagement will end up being a total of 21 months.
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  • Cheryl
    Devoted April 2021
    Cheryl ·
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    Our wedding is in 5 months, we will be engaged just a few weeks shy of 2 years. We started dating April 5, 2016, got engaged April 23, 2018, and getting married April 4, 2020. I wanted a fall wedding, but loved the idea of having everything in April. The engagement was totally unplanned for April. We had taken our first vacation together and he figured that was the perfect place to pop the question.
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  • Kayla
    Devoted November 2020
    Kayla ·
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    Two years definitely isn’t too long. I’ll be engaged for 29 months by the time we got ready. Engaged June 2018, married November 2020. We wanted to make sure we had the budget for what we truly wanted and the time to enjoy the last few months of planning. Right now he’s in grad school and working full time so it’s been hectic. But he graduates in May. We’re aiming to send our save the dates in February or March 2020.
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  • Courtney
    Dedicated March 2021
    Courtney ·
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    We are 7 months in to our 2 year engagement! It’s going so fast. 03/21/21!! I think it’s pretty common.
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  • Brittany
    Just Said Yes October 2021
    Brittany ·
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    We got engaged on Aug 9th 2019 and our wedding date is Oct 9th 2021 i think 2 years gives you time to plan what you want and save money for the big day 🤣
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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    2 years is totally fine! As PPs said, you have much more time to plan the wedding you really want! I would send Save the Dates about 8 months out Smiley smile

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    Devoted November 2019
    Emily ·
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    If you want a quick engagement you should either sacrifice dream date or dream place.
    We are getting married on a Monday.
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  • Bella
    Dedicated October 2020
    Bella ·
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    A long engagement wasn't for me this time. I was "engaged" to my ex for 5 years and never got married. So I said as soon as I get engaged I am planning the wedding and we are getting married asap. But theres nothing wrong with it. I actually wanted 10/10/20 as my date i loved the sound of it but my photographer was booked that day. I ak getting married October 16 2020 a Friday but I am kinda glad I am not getting married on 10/10/20. I am hearing some places are charging premium rates for it. If its okay with you then theres no harm in it. But if you want to get married next october you could try a Friday or a Sunday wedding or even a weekday wedding.
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  • Susan
    Beginner August 2019
    Susan ·
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    We had a 2 year engagement as well and that extra time REALLY helped us alot with saving more money and being able to afford and plan our wedding exactly how we imaged it. Your wedding day only happens once, so if you need more time making it happen and doing it the way that makes you happy, then dont worry too much about dates and stuff. Just do what works for you! Congratulations on the engagement!
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  • Christine
    Beginner October 2021
    Christine ·
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    That’s our wedding date too!!! 🥰🥰🥰🥰
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  • Brittany
    Just Said Yes October 2021
    Brittany ·
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    🤗🤗🤗🥰🥰🥰🥰 you are the first i have found to have the same date!
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  • Cara
    Just Said Yes October 2020
    Cara ·
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    My fiance and I are waiting two years as well. We got engaged in September and initially wanted a Fall 2020 wedding. Part of our reason for holding off was venue availability, but a lot of it was money. We decided to take the additional year to save back. I know it kinda sucks to wait that extra year but it'll fly by. Plus, when you're ready, those venues will be easy picking! You're just way ahead of the game! Smiley winking
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  • Stefanie
    Devoted December 2019
    Stefanie ·
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    I’m getting married almost two years after our engagement and it really helped us saving some money! But if I could’ve done it sooner I would have. I just wanted everything to come out perfect. It depends on the person, if you really want to get married soon maybe sacrifice the venue. But if you’re ok waiting, 2 years are mot bad
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  • Kaitlin
    Devoted June 2020
    Kaitlin ·
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    I don't think that's too long at all. Mine will personally be a year and a half by the time we get married and I think the first 10 months have flown by. I wanted a short engagement as well but I would've had to give up a lot of things due to finances so we decided to hold out and save money to have our dream wedding. In the end it's up to you as long as you get your dream wedding I think that is the important thing!
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  • Sarah
    Devoted March 2021
    Sarah ·
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    My fiancé got engaged in May. We are getting married Dec 6th of 2020. So we are going to be engaged for a year and 4 and a half months. Which honestly to me feels like such a long time away. With Save the dates you won’t have to send any out until December of 2020 or January of 2021. If you want to get married asap find a small venue that you like for you, your fiancé, and any close family or friends. You can have a very small and intimate wedding and then when the venue and date that you want becomes available in 2 years, then you can have your dream wedding.
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  • Caitlin
    Devoted September 2021
    Caitlin ·
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    We got engaged Aug. 2019 and our wedding is Sept 2021, so two years for us. I know this time is essential for me personally, but we are in our early 20s. If you are both looking to get married ASAP, maybe waiting so long isn't right for you?
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  • Christiana
    Beginner September 2021
    Christiana ·
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    Our engagement is two years also. I think it’s fine. But I do have the same questions as you about save the dates and stuff. So following Smiley smile
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    Devoted July 2020
    Ali ·
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    2years is definitely not too long!! My guy is 41 I'll be 35 in 3 weeks, getting married in your 30s isnt a bad thing!
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