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Lydia
Beginner September 2019

Is this too much for a wedding dress?

Lydia, on May 27, 2019 at 12:12 AM

Posted in Wedding Attire 33

Hey y'all, September bride here! Recently my family paid for the rest of my wedding dress, and while I'm super stoked about it, something my future mother-in-law told me has been bugging me for a while now. Let me start with this: ever since we got engaged, this is the dress I've been looking for...

Hey y'all, September bride here! Recently my family paid for the rest of my wedding dress, and while I'm super stoked about it, something my future mother-in-law told me has been bugging me for a while now.

Let me start with this: ever since we got engaged, this is the dress I've been looking for and wanting. I finally found it at a cute local boutique, fell in love as soon as I put it on, and I didn't look back. The total (without alterations) ended up being roughly $1700. (I have included a link to a video featuring the dress: https://youtu.be/FlMqaGfWFcI )

At the time, I didn't think it was too much, since my grandma and I had a set budget of less than $2000. However, when I told my fiance's mother about the price, she said she'd beat the **** out of me (her words, not mine) for paying that much for it, and that I'd look good even in a paper bag, but I didn't need to pay that much for something I'd only wear once.

Now, I've got very bad anxiety (GAD), and ever since she said that, I've been depressed just thinking about it. And now that I'm looking at similar looking dresses that are less than $500, I'm more depressed about it and have since been this way for a few weeks. Tell me, is she right? Should I have gone cheaper? Like seriously, I've cried about it and it's gotten so bad to the point I want to postpone the wedding because of money...

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  • Tris
    Expert August 2019
    Tris
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    BUT NOW WE NEED TO SEE THIS DRESS 馃槣馃槈馃榿
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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
    Meghan
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    Honestly, $1,700 is a great price. Especially for a Maggie Sottero gown. When you start talking designer wedding gowns, you鈥檙e going to be spending $2,000+. You got the dress you love, which is what is most important, and it鈥檚 really no ones business how much you paid. If your FMIL has a problem with it, so be it. That is her issue. Not yours. Don鈥檛 let her attitude damper your excitement! 馃檪
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  • Laura
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    Don鈥檛 be upset!!! That鈥檚 why you should always keep money information to yourself. She should鈥檝e never gotten involved with the price of your dress if she鈥檚 not paying for it! My dress and veil were about that much. It WAS more than I thought I was willing to pay for it, but I loved the dress and I paid for it.
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  • Jessica
    VIP October 2019
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    You stayed within your budget that you set... don't feel bad! Be proud of yourself and your dress! Your only getting married once (hopefully) so if you want to splurge, you splurge girl. I make good money, have very little bills aand am normally very cheap but this is my first and hopefully only marriage so If i splurge or go over budget, I'm not stressing over it. This is a once in a lifetime thing so im going to enjoy it and love everything about it if I can. My dress was $1900 & for me that's crazy expensive considering I haven't bought anything for myself over $50 in probably 10 years.
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    Dedicated November 2019
    Fia
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    Goodness. I hope all of our post put you at ease. FMIL isn't paying for the dress. You stayed within the budget you were given....and you found your dream dress. I wouldn't look for a cheaper alternative. Utlimately, this is your day...wear the dress love every minute of it. And let her options roll off of you.
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  • Stephanie
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    Nope wear your dress with pride!!! That dress is beautiful!!! My mom told me to find a dress less than $100 馃槀馃ぃ馃槀 I told her she wasn't paying for it and my dress is $1000 so far. It's your wedding not hers! I'm sure she meant well....but no. Don't be sad!
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  • MIWM
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    Its your dress you buy what you want. Your Mother in Law is not paying for it so she has no say!

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  • S
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    Schyler
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    No do not feel bad about getting the dress of your dreams. She did not pay for it and needs to shut up. Do not let her take this moment from you. Why is she worried about it at all this is your day let what she says when it is negative go in one ear and out the other. This is your day enjoy it!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    That is a super weird thing for your FMIL to say, she isn't even paying. My dress was $1,600 before alterations (they are costing $700) or my veil or accessories. It's not her decision, it's yours.

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  • Jennifer
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    Honestly, it's your wedding and your rules. It's, quite frankly, none of her business. Enjoy the dress your grandmother gifted you and love every moment of the day you wear it because it's what you wanted - not what someone else dictated.
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  • R
    Devoted October 2019
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    It's a personal decision and I'd say if you'll be unhappy wearing anything other than that dress, then go for it.

    But I will say that you could find very similar dresses for a fraction of the price elsewhere. So if you're okay with wearing something similar but not identical I'd shop around!

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    Everyone is going to have an opinion about your wedding, decorations, flowers, food, dress, music, you name it. Bottom line is that day is about you and your fiance and your future together. It's your dream dress and it was within the budget that you and your grandmother set. Don't let her opinion / judgement put a damper on your dream day. Relish in the moment and remember how you feel when you put the dress on. Smiley heart

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  • Sarah Eliza
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    She didn鈥檛 buy your dress, don鈥檛 worry about her opinion. Mine cost $3000 and some people think I鈥檓 crazy. Don鈥檛 let anyone steal your happiness.

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