Is this appropriate to ask?

View Quoted Comment There is something you need to understand. OP isn't planning to ask the MOH to put her life on hold in case she would get pregnant, she wants to know what type of dress she will get her. Please read correctly before replying 😉.

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I'm not asking her to not get pregnant though. I was just curious so she doesn't waste a few hundred dollars on a dress that won't fit and then have to get alterations or something on it. I want to save her a few hundred dollars as her husband is still in college and they have loans to pay off. It'd be adorable if she had a bump, but if she does then just want to make sure that I can make it easy for her as possible as she will now also have to buy a bunch of baby things and I'd rather her put that money towards a child than a dress/dress alterations. If I didn't make that clear I am so sorry. That's why I would rather ask advice then do it. I'd rather not ask and keep my best friend then ask and lose her. I'm sorry if my post upset you.

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Do you think it would be easier to just give the girls stricter guidelines so it I can sort of have matching dresses but give her (and of course the other girls) a chance to choose more to their taste?

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This is so helpful!!! Thank yo so much for the insight!

View Quoted Comment I apologize. While I was replying to your post it was more the general sentiment I've seen on here a lot lately of brides not wanting their friends or family to get engaged, married, pregnant, have a baby. etc until after their wedding that I was frustrated at. I understand where you're coming from and that that wasn't what you were suggesting. Again, I'm sorry.

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No hard feelings! I figured that was probably going on but in case I miscommunicated something I wanted to clear the air. I do appreciate your comment and overall advise to not do so. Someone said to just get an empire wasted dress or my MOH could get it a couple sizes bigger to accommodate and get the dress so that maybe things to keep in mind. I hope you have a good Tuesday. We are about to get a bunch of snow here. Haha.

View Quoted Comment Empire waist is a great idea. And as someone else said, she could get a larger size and alter the dress to fit her. One thing I know though , life never goes as planned so have a plan b, c and d ready just in case lol
I hope you have a great day too.

I say have your bridesmaids vote on the dress of your choice and stick with that plan.... and your MOH should have a separate look as the other girls any ways but still have at least the same color you originally picked out. I'm sure all of the other ladies will understand that her dress needs to be specials due to her possibility of being pregnant. I really don't think its a good idea to ask her if she will be pregnant around your time. she will feel pressure from you and her husband and if she does get pregnant before your wedding she will feel like she is a burden. that's just my thoughts on your situation.

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I definitely think that would be easiest.

I say just pick a dress that also comes in maternity. Birdy grey is a great bridesmaid dress site and has many maternity options. This way you are prepared for this type of scenario if it were to happen. Also MOH’s typically have a slightly different dress anyway so her having a different style shouldn’t be an issue aesthetically.

I mean anybody can become pregnant during that time. I actually have 3 bridesmaids pregnant now.. 2 will have their babies before my wedding and one is due right around my wedding date. when picking dresses I also had a maturity dress ready that I like if they became pregnant so when one told me recently I sent her the dress that flowed with my idea. my MOH is wearing a different dress than my bridesmaids already so I was okay with it. it looks the same except the top is different.

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I agree with this whole comment...You don't want to upset her if maybe they ARE trying and haven't had any luck yet. That can be extremely painful to be reminded. And it is 100% normal for the MOH to wear a slightly different style dress than the rest of your bridesmaids - it's how they stand out

Wow! congratulations on you wedding, this is my most humble opinion, asking you MOH or any of the brides maid if they are planning or going to be pregnant is a bit out of line because when kids happen they come unannounced and that moments precious, you should be concerned about having the time of your life and enjoy the preparations of the event of your life and don't worry about what happens around you just focus on you and that special day, and what you so call rules! that word is also a bit harsh, what you would like and appreciate would be a better choice of words, remember you are getting married BUT ! they are also going out of there way for you, something to consider!! Best of Luck i also will be getting married soon and will practice what I just preach to you.

I don’t think it’s a terrible question to ask. She’s your MOH so obvi you guys are pretty close. I have one bridesmaid pregnant right now and another straight up told me she plans on being pregnant around the wedding, so I totally get your situation. It’s been a bit of a nightmare trying to get the two to settle on a dress that’ll suit both of them but it is what it is 🤷🏻‍♀️

One route you could go is asking the store's seamstress what is the largest size dress they can taper down to your bm's current size if she does not become pregnant.

Bear in mind: A shorter woman's pregnant belly will go "out" further than a taller woman's belly on average.

I had to deal with this situation as a stylist with a military bridesmaid who was trying to get pregnant.

When is your wedding? Depending on when she would plan to get pregnant, there is a good chance she would still fit into the dress! Most pregnant people don't even start showing until almost 5 months and even then they can fit into regular clothes up until almost 8 months. This would depend on the style of the dress as well. My advice would probably be to not address the issue until it becomes an issue. No need to stress yourself out over things unneccessarily! Good luck with everything! I'm sure it will be the day you dreamed of and more!!

Looking at it from the other side.... What if you end up choosing the dress around her plans to get pregnant and then they have trouble conceiving? The very outfit she is wearing will just be a reminder of that fact. She may end up feeling like a burden because dresses were picked out based on her getting pregnant. It could put added pressure on her, even if you are just asking to be considerate. My opinion is to just go with your original plan. If she gets pregnant, and it happens early enough before the big day that she would be showing, then she still has time to get a maternity/slightly larger size. It is not uncommon for the MOH to wear something different or have something that makes them stand out from the other bridesmaids. I don't think anyone is going to judge your wedding ascetic because your MOH is pregnant and cant fit in the matching dress. Bonus idea: if your worry is the pictures wont come out the way you want she may be able to put it on for pictures without it being zipped all of the way up.

Imo, the great thing about a MOH, is her dress can look a bit different from the BM's and can still fit within the parameters of a traditional, classic wedding line-up.... I know it's a stressful factor for both of you in some regards, so sending good vibes that you'll come to a reasonable decision that makes you both happy! 😊🧘🏽‍♀️