My FH and I are both in the wedding party of a couple who is getting married this May. One of the groomsmen started planning the bachelor party and the est. cost is at least $500 per person, not including meals/drinks/cost of transportation, which is 6 hours from where we all live. We are reeling at this proposed cost. We're in the beginning stages of planning our wedding, which means tons of big deposits to be made. If the girls plan a similar event, FH and I will be spending close to $1500 JUST for bachelor/bachelorette parties - we'd still have a BM dress to buy, a tux to rent, shower gifts, wedding gifts...it's overwhelming.
What's bugging me is 1. the bride and groom are EXTREMELY down to Earth and have said that they don't want to do anything extravagant. and 2. the groomsmen who's planning this still lives with his parents and has no living expenses, so he really can't appreciate what a burden this is.
How should we handle this? Are we just being cheap? cont.