Is Pinterest ruining weddings?

I don't think it is ruining them but I do think it is helping (or pushing) the traditional wedding ideas to be skewed now.. As you said things are now expected to be done that never have been before.. And I totally agree on the photography aspect. I however love my pinterest but have 2 wedding boards.. Ideas that I really like and Ideas I am actually using...

I agree. Some of the ideas are everywhere. Mason jars, burlap, cutesy signs... you're right. I think if you pick or choose a couple of things you're better off. When every idea you get is from pinterest, that means there's nothing of YOU in it, its all someone else.

There were 3 pictures I saw on Pinterest that I asked my photographer to recreate. But she has such a beautiful eye, I hope she has fun at our wedding too.

Point being- I'd use it for inspiration, not for copy-catting.

It gave me insane expectations of what my wedding could be. All these gorgeous dresses (that end up being more than 5k, no wonder they're gorgeous), letterpress invitations, crazy lavish decorations. Then when you sit down and start to figure out what things really cost, let's just say my real wedding won't be living up to my pinterest fantasy.

I think so, I love Pinterest but I mean there's only so many posts on barn weddings with mason jars I can see. Hypocritically enough I'm using mason jars and thought of putting my bridesmaids in blush dresses with the guys just in vests.... typical Pinterest lol

No, don't me wrong. My photog even told me to make a picture board and send it to him. Not to copy, but to get an idea of what I like. Great ideas, but I think the expectation might just be too high.

One of my good friends planned her wedding about 3-4 years ago right before Pinterest came out. She always talks about how she would have loved pinterest! I think it is good for ideas and helps people save money because they can DIY things.

I love pinterest but I'm only using it a little. I used it to help me figure out the flowers I wanted because I don't know flowers and they have some beautiful arrangements. That being said I brought a sheet of 9 different bouquets to my florist and said, this is the feeling I want to recreate, not the bouquets I want duplicated.

I don't think it is ruining weddings, but it is creating an unrealistic expectation and it is more easily available than magazines. If you use it correctly though, it can be a wonderful and helpful site.

I wish I was creative enough to think of all new amazing ideas, but I'm not. So I use it as inspiration and put my own twist on it. I personally love my pick a seat not a side sign haha

Not ruining...but perhaps making plenty of them very similar? We all know the mason jars, mint, blush, gold, chevrons, lace, burlap and barns....we'll see a lot of it because it's on trend for 2013...

I just think that it's harder to have a "unique" wedding now, and to stick to your guns about making it personal for you and your FH. I went to a wedding this summer that was like a Pinterest explosion. It was cute but I knew exactly where she had gotten those ideas from.

I also think it's important to remember that those of us who are planning a wedding are SO MUCH MORE engrossed in wedding trends that we kind of have a "been there done that" mindset abotu stuff that we've seen all over the internet. A majority of guests don't have that mindset, and will think your "pick a seat not a side" sign is super creative becasue they haven't seen it before. Know what I mean?

Ha! sorry Jillian - I didn't mean YOU personally in my example. Your sign is super cute :-)

Another example - My cousin, who is my age and has been in about 500 weddings, got me a hanger from Etsy and gave it to me at my shower. Everyone thought it was amazing and such a cool idea. I loved it, and had secretly wanted one, but I certainly wouldn't have called it "unique" or "such a cool idea"

I definitely get this! It's like the burlap and lace. While it is a neat idea, I'm honestly over it. I've been in three weddings with the theme and have been to two others.... and that's all in one year! Lol.

It is super helpful it can be a bit much. I find myself not being so impressed when I go to weddings and see something from pinterest.... But I am using ideas from there... Hypocrit here..

Yeah I mean I showed that sign to my in laws last night and my mother in law was like "OMGGG HOW CREATIVE THAT'S SO UNIQUE" and in my head I'm like ehhhhhh..

Hahah I know! I didn't take it that way

Yea I planned my wedding about 3 years ago so I wasn't on pinterest then..but I feel like once you pick a theme you can just google image search..Granted you can't see how many repinned an idea so you don't know if it's popular.

Then again at least in my circle the older crowd doesn't have pinterest (like my aunts and uncles) so it's not like it will be totally obvious that someone got an idea from pinterest..also if you like an idea, roll with it! :-)

That's a really good point, Kate (and Jillian). And those signs ARE really cute! Personally, I am not having GMs usher regular guests, but I am also not putting a sign up. Hopefully, they will just figure it out. Haha! This thread has blown up! Not surprised!

I love pinterest, but when you look at Pinterest, you're looking at hundreds of weddings. No one can possibly incorporate all that stuff into one wedding, even if they had all the time and money in the world.

And you're right, in the quest to be different, well......lots of it is the same.

I think so. Some of it is just repeats after repeats. After seeing so many country chic weddings on pinterest when I finally went to one in real life, I wasn't as like awww that's so cute since I'd seen it everywhere already online. Also, I think that they build up false expectations of everyone needs a high budget magazine worthy wedding.

I am not getting my inspiration from pinning things. Burlap and lace are not my thing. I really don't have a theme per se. I like larger floral arrangements at the alter of my venue, and due to budget I will be making those in silk. I am fine with candles and flowers for centerpieces or even candles only (got a great deal of votives and the holders thanks to this site) and I am not going with the "hot color trends". I will be choosing a classic color combo so in 5 years I don't look at the pictures and ask myself "wth was I thinking?"

True, Susan. I picked my alma mater's colors because it's so us. They will always be my alma mater's colors and FH and I will always be fans of their athletic programs. (Even when they suck)