Is It Too Early

I sent STDs for my wedding in December 2018 for my October 2019 wedding. We do have some different situations though.

1.) Our wedding is a destination wedding so needed people to have ample time to plan.

2.) our wedding is during the school year and my siblings needed to know in advance to plan for travel during the school year.

3.) The only "friends" we invited to the wedding are in the wedding party or our 2 ushers. so we weren't worried about friendships fizzling.

My family appreciated it because a few of my siblings needed to put in their requests by January for any PTO for 2019.

Not too early for save the dates. Within a year is appropriate, I think. But I'm getting married in February and mine still haven't gone out (FH slacking on getting me addresses). To he fair, we were going to get married at the end of May until I got into graduate school and didn't want to take finals and have a wedding on the same week...

I sent my STD's out digitally several months ago and wont be getting married until February. so I'd say you're perfectly fine to send STD's now.

Invites will go out in late December/early january and my RSVPs will be due by January 20 (1 month before to allow for the inevitable late arrivals). the only thing that looks a little off on your timeline is the early RSVP deadline. Everything else seems good.

I sent STD's out at the begining of February and the invites went out in June. Weddings in September and RSVP date is August 1st

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What online website did you use for your save the dates?

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Hey Osha,

I used www.withjoy.com and it's really a fantantastic site. I love it and I go on it every few days to update things. It's great!

View Quoted Comment I am having my RSVP back a moth early also, I have seen way to many girls here freaking out trying to get RSVP in on time. That’s not going to be me. My guest have a extra week to her in RSVP. Then I can take my time and get two weeks to contact the others.

View Quoted Comment We sent our stds out 9 months before, but I would have sent them out 10 months before the date if possible. We got engaged in The end of December, had date and venue in early January, but went on vacation at the end of January and it took a little time to finalize the guest list (very painful process).

our wedding is September 14th, final count is due 10 days before, but that’s over Labor Day weekend and we will be gone, so aiming to have it finalized with the venue August 30th. I allowed a few days for straggler RSVPs to arrive, and about 4 days to follow up with non-responders. I want to be able to text and say “if we haven’t heard from you by 8/23 we have to consider you a “no”. I need a week before for seating arrangements and organizing (and accounting for the few I estimate will be late even for the 8/23 date) for the venue so we are having RSVPs due on August 16th.

Wow I just redid my math from my last post - we sent our save the dates out 6 months before he wedding, I would have sent them 9 months early if possible because 75% of guests are out of town.

My venue asks for RSVPs back 4 weeks before the wedding but I am DIYing everything so I’m asking for them 8 weeks before. This is my schedule:

Engagement Announcement: October 3rd 2018
Digital STD (free): November 25th 2018
Invites sent: March 2019
RSVP deadline: September 5th 2019
Final count due: October 5th 2019
Wedding date: November 5th 2019

I know it seems early to send/receive invitations but I’m trying to finish planning in early August so that I can focus on my junior year of college before the wedding