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Is It Too Early

MissSoonToBe, on July 21, 2019 at 4:05 PM Posted in Planning 1 30
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I have digital save the dates (to save on postage-this wedding is breaking me lol). Is it too early to send them out now. Here’s the timeline:

wedding May 31, 2020
official invites go out March (early March)
rsvp’s due by April 10
official count due May 15
there are about 20 families who are out of town

What do you think?

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Latest activity by Mary, on July 23, 2019 at 10:38 AM
  • ASMini914
    Super September 2019
    ASMini914 ·
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    Why do you have your RSVPs due back so early? It may be difficult for guests to RSVP to something so early. Typically invites go out 6-8 weeks before the event, I wouldn't have your RSVPs due back 6 weeks before your event if you don't even need to have your final count in for 4 weeks after that.


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  • 2d Bride
    Champion October 2009
    2d Bride ·
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    If you're on a budget, I would seriously consider whether to send them at all. I've seen way too many situations in which STDs resulted in having to invite people you wouldn't otherwise have invited--which is way more expensive than the cost of the STDs themselves. For example:

    * The costs just keep mounting, and you'd like to cut back on your guest list.

    * You send STDs to coworkers, but someone quits and you never hear from them again.

    * You send an STD to a couple, but they break up/divorce before the wedding.

    * You send an STD to someone you see as a new friend, but then the friendship just doesn't develop.

    * You send an STD to someone you had a fight with, because you think the relationship is getting back to normal. It isn't.

    If you're sending invitations nearly three months before the wedding, that is plenty of time for people to get the best rates on flights and hotels. STDs just aren't necessary, and they cause a lot of grief.

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    I don't think that 10 months is super early for save the dates if you have lots of out of town guests. I do agree with PP that your RSVP deadline is way early. Why does it need to be over a month before your head count is due and 7 weeks before the wedding? Invitations typically don't even go out until 6-8 weeks before the wedding.

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  • Courtney
    Master December 2019
    Courtney ·
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    We're asking for RSVPS back about 6 weeks before the wedding because many of our vendors want counts 4 weeks beforehand. Trust me, it's impossible to get everyone to RSVP in time.

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  • Mandi
    Master October 2020
    Mandi ·
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    I'd say the earliest your RSVP date should be is May 1st. Gives you just over 2 weeks to track down late RSVPs.
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  • Mrs. S
    Master November 2019
    Mrs. S ·
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    Yes I would send them now
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  • L
    Devoted August 2020
    Lauren ·
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    Definitely not too early. Mine is May 30, 2020. Half our guest list is out of town so sent ours out a few weeks ago. And dont worry about your RSVP date, mine is going to be March 30th so I have time to track down non responders/finalize seating and table arrangements. I will be in school and wont have time to do that during the last 2 weeks of my semester before the big day! You do you girl!
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  • Fmv
    Super October 2020
    Fmv ·
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    I definitely would send them now. We will be sending our save the dates 10-11months before the wedding because we have alot of out of town/state guests.
    I personally think your time line and due date of rsvps is fine especially if you think its going to be hard to track down your guests that didnt rsvp
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  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
    Kelly ·
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    Sounds like it's about time with so many out of town guests!
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  • Gabrielle
    Savvy July 2021
    Gabrielle ·
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    Our wedding is May 30, 2020 and we sent our STDs our early June.
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  • Jessica
    Master September 2020
    Jessica ·
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    We’ll be sending STDs between 11-12 months in advance because every person invited has to travel at least 2 hours for the wedding. I think it’s nice to send STDs, especially for OOT guests so they can watch travel deals, and I disagree that 3 months is always plenty of time to find deals and make arrangements. While STDs obligate you to invite people if you did decide to cut the guest list later for any of the reasons the PP suggested- the lesson here is to only send a STD to people you definitely want at the wedding and if you’re not positive hold off and decide when invites go out. Not everyone needs to get a STD, just use your best judgement. Happy planning!
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  • Andrea
    Master January 2021
    Andrea ·
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    I'm getting married in April, 2020 and sent our electronic save the dates last week! You're definitely not too early in terms of that.

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  • MissSoonToBe
    Expert May 2020
    MissSoonToBe ·
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    It’s just a estimate. I’m flying by the seat of my pants lol lol this is why i ask the questions I do to help get other perspectives.
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  • MissSoonToBe
    Expert May 2020
    MissSoonToBe ·
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    The invites are digital so no cost at all 😊 i May have to send like 10 to older family members but that’s it.

    Thanks for the other things to think about!
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  • MissSoonToBe
    Expert May 2020
    MissSoonToBe ·
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    Just a guess-timate 😆 i can definitely streamline this timeline.

    thanks for the insight
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  • MissSoonToBe
    Expert May 2020
    MissSoonToBe ·
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    Ok cool. Thanks for the reply 😊
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  • MissSoonToBe
    Expert May 2020
    MissSoonToBe ·
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    Thanks so much for the insight. This planning thing is rough lol lol so many decisions 😊
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  • MissSoonToBe
    Expert May 2020
    MissSoonToBe ·
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    Oh ok cool. It’s exciting times!
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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    Yes, too soon. I would wait until 6 months before unless this is a destination wedding requiring most of your guest to book flights.
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  • Alli
    Devoted October 2020
    Alli ·
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    I'm getting married May 9,2020 with almost exclusively out of town guests and my timeline is very similar. I think you should go with it!

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