Is it terrible that I don't want my sister to be a bridesmaid?

Do what makes you happy! You will go crazy trying to make everyone other than yourself happy. Go with your gut.

Your wedding isn't for a year and a half. There's no reason to be selecting your brutal party this early. As you can see, it just opens the door for drama. Don't worry about this until 8-ish months before your wedding.

It's not terrible. My mother wanted me to have my crazy cousin to be my MOH, but I picked my friend of 20+ years instead

Pick who you want. I picked my sister for my MOH only because she is my only sister and immediately regretted it. Certain circumstances happened and she is no longer MOH and I feel much better now that one of my friends is MOH instead

I have one of my sisters as a BM but not the other one. At first there was a little hurt feelings. I decided to ask her to be an usherette so she would feel included. She also felt honored because I did it mainly so that my Grandpa could have someone to "escort" him since my grandma died last year. This seemed like a perfect job for a family member. And being close to her didn't matter as much.

I haven't selected my wedding party , I have MOH, which is my best friend, its just something my mother keeps bringing up and it makes me feel bad.

I'm regretting asking mine!!! Your happiness is everything! That's one stress you don't need!

Brutal. Autocorrect is hilarious sometimes! LoL.

No I dont think its bad. FH and I have been talking about who we may pick with each other. Two of his siblings will most likely be in the wedding but one will not be.

What a tough position to be in! I definitely don't think you should ask her, and it doesn't sound like she would care too much either. I just don't know how you should break it to your mom...

I don't think there's anything wrong with that! I have two half siblings, half brother and half sister, though my brother has been supportive and a part of my life for a really long time now while my sister hasn't until recently (which I'm very thrilled for!!!). I plan to ask my brother to be in the wedding party, but will likely not be asking my sister. When it comes to wedding party, politics are not something to get sucked into!

My dad was disappointed I didn't want my step sister to be apart of my wedding but after I sat down and explained why he completely understood. Do what's best for you and what's less stress

Nothing wrong with it at all.

I am totally with you on this. I asked my little sister to be my MOH when I got engaged. Her and I are so different (she's the wild child, sass pot, free spirit) And so to keep her in check, I asked my best friend to be my Matron of honor. Now, because of an argument I got into with my mom my sister and refused to do any MOH stuff with me until it's resolved. This conflict has nothing to do with her. She wasn't even there. And there is no reason it should be affecting her going shopping with me. If you have doubts, DONT DO IT! I'm wishing I had thought a little more about it.

Could you give her a less important job so she still feels loved and appreciated? Like... Usherette, Gift coordinator, Still have her give a speech? Just an idea. That way you don't feel as guilty and she still feels the love.

I have already mentioned casually to my sister that I might not even do bridesmaids... I really just don't want her around since she offered me a line of coke the night before her wedding and was sneaking off her whole ceremony to smoke weed...

I think it's fine but just be prepared for questions...and some heat.

Did your mom post yesterday?

It's fine. Pick who you want but don't do it now. 6-8 months ahead.

Its your wedding, it should be who you want standing next to you, not who your mother wants. I'm not having my sister as a bridesmaid either.

I have one sister and three stepsisters and none of them are in my party. You'll be fine. Pick who you want.

@ Celia - I was just thinking the same thing!

@ Emily - Don't feel obligated to have your sister as MOH. Don't let your mother guilt trip you or pressure you into changing your decision.