Is it stupid of me to not want a shower?

I don't think it is stupid to not want one. I have so many random friend groups that don't know each other and I can't invite them all the the wedding.. So I will not be having one. One of my BM's lives out of state so when she came in to town last weekend we just had a best friend bbq and made the men tag along so they could get to know each other more and meet my FH.

Elphaba's right. Showers are optional and you're not required to have one. You can politely tell someone who offers to throw one "thanks, but no thanks."

FH and I have been to co-ed wedding showers (it's a thing) and believe me, it ain't pretty. He's told me numerous times I can't let anyone throw us a co-ed shower. He wants no part in it.

They aren't required but if parents are really into it you can expect one. Friends usually respect wishes on this stuff more than parents or relatives

I am not having one either. I agree with you!

Nope, not stupid at all. I don't think I've ever enjoyed one and I've asked that no one throw me one.

Team no shower! I'm with you. I've never been to one that was actually fun. Hell, I've never been to one that wasn't down right boring. I'd rather send someone a "thanks for not making me go to a crappy shower" gift.

Totally up to you im not having one either have all the essentials i need already! There is also nothing wrong with a co-ed one! Do whatever makes you feel best!

Nope. Never enjoyed attending one and never desired one for myself. My mother offered (we have no BP) but that was politely declined.

I had mine yesterday, I had so much fun! And heard that mine had the best shower food people had ever been to! The games were funny, my BM met with FH to ask questions then I had to guess his answers. I got 5 out of 30 right lol!!!!!! My bridesmaids and mother made sure I had no part in the planning and it was completely stress free. I got some amazing and personal gifts as well. And I got the cutest photos!!!

My food table!! They made a special vegan section for me!!

The table set up!

Anyways sorry for the multiple posts!!! But it really was such a special day and I got so many pictures that are very meaningful!

I would definitely suggest not skipping it!!!

No, you don't have to have a shower if you don't want to. But you should probably make sure your mom/bridesmaids know you don't want one.

You don't have to do one. Many don't enjoy it. We are doing one and I am looking forward to it. Maybe the ones I went to weren't as bad. I usually just enjoy catching up with relatives and I will take part in all the silly shower activities. It is usually just a light nice afternoon. Your absolutely not obligated to have one, and I think it's becoming more popular for people to skip it.

My mom and I are in agreement that I don't need a shower. Since a lot of people are coming from out of state, I wouldn't have much of a party here where I live. Not to mention, I hate going to bridal showers. I'm also skipping the bachelorette/bachelor party . Both my FH and myself have only a handful of close friends we would even invite to something like that, so we are thinking of just having our parents and some close relatives and taking a trip to the casino to have a night about us. I guess where I am coming from, I know too many people that are married, with kids, that were suppose to come to my brothers baby shower, that didn't show because they had "busy weekends" , so I'd rather not have a party and spare myself from disappointment of who doesn't show. That might just be in my opinion, or maybe I'm don't have very dependable relatives/friends in my life to believe a party would be a success. Oh, and I really don't want my parents paying for a bridal shower (place, food, gifts, favors, etc) , I'd rather have all that spent in a different place.

I'm not having a shower. I'm having a small wedding though and I'm not really into showers. I may have a movie night with my friends but it would be closer to a "bachlorette" than a shower.

I'm with you! The only one that I have ever found to be enjoyable was a wedding shower that I threw with a few other bridesmaid for my friend. We had Long Island Iced Teas, so maybe that's why it was OK...

I had a shower that was nothing like the typical shower. Now, my Mom wanted my input, so I had some say and she knew I didnt want games and corny things like that and she knew the general theme I was after. We had it at an amazing restaurant, there were mimosas, sangria, and a great wine list, the food was amazing (cheese, meats, Brie, Caprese skewers, and more), and we didn't play games! Everyone mingled and we just enjoyed each other's company. Word spread that it was the best shower guests had ever attended. You certainly don't have to have a shower, but if you do, it doesn't have to be boring and you don't have to have any games at all! I know it's not "traditional," but maybe you would be more interested if it was more "you," so maybe if you did have one, you could have some input?

I'm not having one. I've always hated going to them.

I'm not having one either. I think they are awkward. I would rather go without than force people to be social.