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Is it rude to try on wedding dresses you won't buy?

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Sierra, on March 11, 2020 at 3:06 PM

I do not wear dresses often and certainly not beautiful/fancy/potentially expensive ones. I have zero idea what silhouettes I would look good in or enjoy wearing. I also want to do my research before committing. So my question is - would it be rude to the sales person if I went to a salon to try on silhouettes just to get an idea, but not intend on buying anything that trip? I feel like it must be disrespectful to the consultant but I also don't know how to figure out what I like otherwise. What do you all think?

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Ciera · on March 12, 2020 at 9:33 AM
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The bridal salon i went to had an appointment type called silhouette checks, just for that purpose, it was a shorter appointment then the one where i bought my dress but it was really helpful to know that i wasn't going to be pressured into a sale, the other stores i went to all tried to pressure me into buying. If you are anywhere near the DC area you should check out cherry blossom bridal. I wound up going back to them and buying one of the dresses from my silhouette check.
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Sierra · on March 12, 2020 at 9:38 AM
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This is such a good idea! I am thinking of going with my FH so we can both get an idea of what we like/dont like, then bringing my sister and friends for when I actually am looking.
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Sierra · on March 12, 2020 at 9:42 AM
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Thank you for the suggestion! I am not close but I bet the term "silhouette check" will be useful.
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Sierra · on March 12, 2020 at 9:44 AM
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You make SO MUCH SENSE. I think I am getting caught up in a nonsense philosophical quandary about the weight of not buying a dress when I lack the itent... blah blah. I was pedantic before being engaged and now it is in overdrive
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Taylor · on March 12, 2020 at 9:44 AM
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Yeah I had mentioned going alone to my FSIL and she made a comment along that lines of "I'll be super upset if you go alone and find a dress without me there." SO I did it anyway and just didn't tell anyone. I had already been guilted into allowing a ton of people to come dress shopping with me and I knew I was going to be overwhelmed. My solo appointment was definitely a way for me to narrow down my preferred silhouette/fabric. I'm super grateful I did this because my "real" appointment was me and 7 other people and it was an absolute nightmare. I found the dress but I was miserable.
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Sherry · on March 12, 2020 at 9:53 AM
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Nope. You can try on as many as you want. You are never obligated to purchase anything.
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Katharine · on March 12, 2020 at 2:14 PM
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That's the whole point of trying on wedding dresses. I think it's not uncommon for brides to go in with one idea of what they want, only to realize they don't actually like it and end up in something completely different. Or to go in with no idea what to look for at all.
I went to 2 different stores and hated every traditional dress I tried on before I found my non-traditional dress at the 3rd store I tried. You're not obligated to buy any dress you try on, or even to buy from the first store you go to.
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