Is it rude to ask if I'm invited to a wedding?

Your FH should ask, and if he is told that you are not invited he should decline. That is not okay.

It looks like you'll be married before their weddings, so by that time you'll be your FH's wife. They should definitely have invited you. It wouldn't hurt to ask. Like PP said, if they say no you're not invited, have FH decline.

I would have FH ask - not so much because I would want to go after that but more because they need to know that they are in the wrong if both people are not invited. If the answer is no, he should decline right then and there. Then you can spend the money on your wedding!

That's really really rude. If I were invited to wedding without my SO I would decline. The fact that they said "one seat" is pretty clear you're not invited. That sucks.

That's so rude! Have FH call them to clarify, if his friends say it's just him invited, he should decline because that is tacky and disrespectful to you AND your relationship. I can understand if children are not invited, but spouses?? Come on! It doesn't get much more rude than that. Especially since you so graciously included their significant others to your wedding.

Yeah he needs to call them and ask cause if they really only invited him, that's just rude

You can definitely ask but I don't think that counts as 'clarifying' - it's pretty clear they didn't invite you I'm afraid. Which is obviously really bad of them for a number of reasons, and most of us would never have done that, and I'm sorry that's happened to you it feels really rubbish doesn't it.

I wouldn't call .. you invited them to your WEDDING right before yours !! No way is this an oversight more than once ... nobody knows you exist and they all forgot about your wedding ?! Are they attending

So babe texted the chicago wedding guy last night. And a since the type of relationship they have he just told him to add me on. But the fiance (of the first wedding) did the invites wrong. There are other significant others left off. Sucks for their budget.

Now the Vegas (guy is our groomsmen) wedding babe originally Said we weren't going to go but unbeknownst to me him and the other frat brothers were still planning on going without significant others. So I found out last night that's why the 2nd invite was only addressed to him. Also the Vegas wedding isn't a properly hosted one because we pay for food and drinks at a bar as if we are just clubbing -_-. Now why would I fly from Indiana to Vegas to witness an already married couple have their wedding and then pay for my "reception". Babe said they wanted to cut costs.

The final wedding in DC babe is in and this guy is our groomsmen also. We haven't heard back from him but there's no misunderstanding unless again the fiance didn't know how to invite my family.

It sounds like the Vegas wedding is the same one mentioned in the Dear Abby article a few days ago . . . *smh* I don't understand how people operate sometimes, I really don't.

OP, you can do as you feel best, but I wouldn't be attending the Vegas - whatever it is - and I'd have some rather firm words for my DH if he originally said *we* weren't going, then changed his mind so *he* could hang out with them without SO's.

Oh yes he got a piece of my mind after he told me that. There was no sleeping until we cleared that up lol. He even started looking up flights last night if I wanted to go to the Vegas one. Smh

OP - smart woman! :-)

I'm confused... he's having three weddings? wtf.

Lol sorry there are 3 wedding after ours. 2 are less than a week later. Each are his frat brothers. 2 of the brothers are our groomsmen.

@Richard Okay I wasn't the only one shaking my head at the thought a wedding would be "brah" time...

100% agree with @FMP. I wouldn't go and if they ask why he didn't... be honest!! Save that money and do something as a family.

They're being extremely rude. My FH would not attend if I were not invited (and you clearly were not).

My FH would probably be upset and wouldn't go without me so I would just leave it alone and not bother and we could just stay home or do something else.

ETA: just read your updates. That's good that he asked for clarification! Good luck!

Also... @oceankissed... wtf..... LOL

@Richard yeah I'm going to go to the first wedding. Poor fiance made that big mistake with not adding sig. others but didn't do it on purpose.

But yeah the Vegas one I spoke my mind with having to spend money on outfit, travel, hotel...everything plus a gift. That's more of a mini vaca and we can use that money to go towards our honeymoon. Babe really wants to go since its his LB and thats their bond that they had for 12+ years..but com'n now. Maybe its because I've learned alot from this page and they are doing this thing all types of wrong lol

@Oceankissed I understand that time that they have because each month they have their meetings and then bruh time afterwards. That is their time that I don't come in between with the only exception that he brings me a milkshake home lol

But weddings isn't that. He said one of the guys mentioned how expensive it would be to go to everyone's wedding and that was his excuse to not take his girl to the 3rd wedding. (the same guy that isn't even properly hosting his because of the costs). But I told babe money isn't an excuse to not at least extend invites to our family they don't know whats in our bank or in the banks of others on the guest list.