Is it rude to ask if I'm invited to a wedding?

Crystal,

They should have invited you both. That is rude that they did not. However, I personally would not ask if I was invited (but I may have an UO) since they made it clear by saying 1 seat reserved. I only say that because I know how awkward it is when people ask me if they are invited and I would hate putting someone in that spot....BUT then again, I have invited all significant others.

it sounds like they are being cheap. I am sorry!

ETA: Clarity

Have your FH ask his friends to clarify. You should be invited with your FH...hands down/no questions asked.

These friends are being rude... I agree, have your FH ask them to clarify

This happened to me. My cousin addressed my invitation only to me and the RSVP card stated that 1 guest was allowed. It was confusing because I wasn't sure if she meant that the "guest" was just me or if it was H. We were, at that point married, expecting, and having our marriage celebration 6 days after her wedding and she was well aware that H existed.

I sent her a FB message saying "Hey I'm just a little confused by your invitation. Is the "guest" me or is that "guest" spot for H? She said it was for both of us.

Long story short (too late, I know), just ask. They may not have been clear on how to address invitations.

See that's what I thought. I jokingly told him he got invited to a couple more wedding so looks like son and I will be hanging out at home. He thinks that I should just show up. I think that his idea is wrong because you don't just show up to a out of town wedding 3+ hours away.

@La Grosera I hope that is it.

Like @Vanessa mentioned I don't want to put them in that awkward situation of asking and they never wanted to invite me. I've had a couple of people like that but they weren't friends or family just random hi/bye folks from my hometown lol

I asked him to suck it up and ask if I'm invited so it won't be as awkward to them

No It was rude.... and FH needs to ask whats up.... I really hope it was just an oversight cause it makes no sense to me at all!

@Crystal, I don't think either of you should go if that's the case. You should use the money you would have given as gifts on a nice dinner and date night instead. If they only invited him, they don't have any respect for you or your relationship.

Wow super rude. I would have your FH call them up and clarify...

It seems like a super negligent oversight if it is in fact an oversight.

OP if she'd messaged me back and said he wasn't invited, we definitely planned on declining. I actually made a thread and posted the RSVP card here and everyone was as confused as I was. You may actually still be able to find it. I don't think I hid it.

If it says "1 seat reserved" then that is pretty clear they are just inviting him. It is rude as hell. Your FH can call the grooms (it seems this has happened on multiple invites?) to clarify, but be prepared for them to say you can't come. In that case, your FH should decline the invitations.

FH needs to ask. I have had to ask if my FH was invited before...I wouldn't go without him.

Super rude. Since the invitation was so clear (1 seat reserved), I'd assume that was their intent and just have FH skip the wedding altogether

Last year that happened to us. He was invited to his friends wedding and she only put him. He didn't go because he didn't feel it was right. But I'd have your FH ask his friends if you are. It is kind of weird that all 3 of them would just put him.... Are they invited to yours with a SO??

Yeah it is really weird. The way we set it up we didn't give a set amount of reserved seats. We sent out invited address to all in in family or with significant others name on invite as well. Just so we wouldn't leave anyone out.

Ima wait to see what the friends say..

Please ask. The first time I got married I forgot to invite a groomsman's wife and it was a supremely stupid oversight that I have never lived down. I wish dearly that one of them had asked me, though both of them were too polite, and the GM came by himself.

You certainly should have been included. Have you're FH reach out to his friends and just ask. If they are his frat brothers they should be close and it shouldn't be awkward. Depending on their response you can make a determination from there.

Yeah, you both have to be invited. It is rude.

I'm hoping it's an oversight, I would decline if it were just one of us invited to a wedding when anyone who would invite us to anything know's we've been together for 5 years. Especially if you have sent their invites and they see that their SO is clearly invited. if it's not an oversight I would find it very rude and they look cheap AF for purposely not inviting that person's wife (since you'll be married prior to all of their weddings).

Keep us updated because I'm really curious about the outcome!

I just asked FH about this since he is about as Frat as you can get (and is 59 years old so he has not grown out it) and he said Frat brothers can be that way. Doesn't make it right, but sometimes they prefer to just invite their frat buddies so they can have undivided "Brah time." I don't agree with this at all, but he did not seem surprised. For example, when Fh talks to his "brahs" he goes in another room (secret bro stuff I guess). whatever...