Is it rude to ask about bringing someone?

I understand why you would want a +1 but if you were not given one, I would not ask. As someone planning my own wedding, we didn't give any +1s to people who weren't in relationships because we just don't have the space or money to have everyone bring an additional person with them, and I'd feel pretty put on the spot if I was asked.

View Quoted Comment I second this. If you were given one, it would be plainly marked. Is the location somewhere a friend would go with you, and hang out alone for the day?? For example, if the wedding is in Florida, the friend(s) could travel with you, and spend the wedding day at the beach while you’re at the wedding.

I agree. If you were given a plus one, it would be directly marked that way.
I wouldnt ask

I agree with the other answers. My only exception to that would be if both of these conditions exist: 1. You are very close to the bride or groom and 2. the potential +1 is about to become a fiance. And my guess is, if number 1 exists, the +1 would have either been invited or included. I would not ask. You have no idea why they did not include the +1.

I figured that it would be a no to ask but I wanted to get some other opinions first. Thank you.

Depends on the couple. We never explicitly gave anyone a plus one but we haven't said no when people asked.

What’s the bride like? I think like 80% of the time it would be a no, but there are laidback or not etiquette oriented brides that wouldn’t care. If you don’t know the bride well enough to know if she’s in that minority than I wouldn’t ask.

View Quoted Comment I feel like she’s definitely more laid back. That’s her personality in general. She also did Facebook invite save the dates so I feel like she probably isn’t as etiquette oriented as most.

I actually received an invite once that was just addressed to myself, so I thought that I couldn’t bring a plus one and just RSVP’d for me. When the couple received my RSVP card, they actually called me, as they were surprised that I hadn’t RSVP’d for myself and FH. They just assumed that I would RSVP for both of us even though the invite was only addressed to myself, with no mention of a plus one. If I were in your shoes, I wouldn’t necessarily ask to bring a plus one, but I don’t think it would hurt to ask for clarification. Especially if they are a closer friend.

I think it depends on your relationship to the couple. It’s not generally polite to ask for a +1, but it’s also pretty rude to expect your guest to travel alone to a wedding where they won’t (really) know anyone.

I think it depends on the bride. I’ve been following wedding wire for a few months now so I am being very specific on plus ones/amount invited. However, my FH’s sister is getting married in June and I just ordered, addressed and sent out her invites. There is no info on plus ones or who is invited. They did put “and family” on some envelopes and spouses/significant other’s names on the envelopes. She is very laid back and hasn’t really done research on the etiquette or how to world the rsvps. She’s just waiting for the rsvps to come in to see how many people put on their cards. There is a “_ of _ decline” and “_ of _ will attend” line but she left all areas blank. If she’s your friend I would just send a quick text and ask. Let her know either way is fine, you just didn’t want to bring someone along without asking or come alone on that drive if they were okay with you bringing a guest.

If you are comfortable with asking then I say do it. Honestly, the chaos of wedding planning makes your forget some details or even to consider others people. I know that if you were my friend and you brought up that you are driving almost 9 hours by yourself plus you really don't know anyone that I would give you a plus one ( and feel bad for being .ore considerate).

I think it's rude to ask to bring a plus 1

I would text her...

”hey Sally, I’m so excited to have gotten your wedding invitation! As you know I’m almost nine hours away from your venue which is a really long trip; for safety sake I’d like to bring someone with me to share the driving duties. Is that okay? If not I totally understand, will probably have to decline due to doing the travel length solo though. Either way is cool with me, just please let me know if I have a Plus One for this. Thanks!”

So technically it is rude to ask for a plus one. However, I do personally think it is quite dumb and I wouldn't be offended if someone asked for one. One of our friends who is travelling about 5 hours to come to our wedding asked us for one saying that he was coming either way, he just wanted to know if he could bring someone as it was a longer trip and he wanted the company. We luckily had already had some declines at that point so had no problem giving him one. I'm glad he asked.

I think the asking for a plus one has gotten a really bad rap because so many people ask and then are offended when the bride and groom say no and it becomes this whole huge thing. I feel like, any question, when asked with grace and any answer give is taken well, isn't rude. (I am more laid back than some brides on here though)

I think its in appropriate and may put the B&G in an awkward position. Sometimes its hard to say no.

With all do respect, your reasons are self-serving. If you don't want to go solo, don't go.

View Quoted Comment I disagree with most of the people here. It's not rude to ask a friend anything. If you have to walk on eggshells about asking a question... We were asked by 3 people if they could bring something. We told them that we would let them know as the rsvps come back if there is enough room. There was, everyone was happy.

The people who did not have a plus one and wrote on the card they were bringing someone was rude.

Asking a question about if they can accommodate a plus one. No biggie folks.

I don’t see a problem with asking, as long as you’re polite about it and don’t give her a hard time if she says no. I don’t really think that’s putting her in an uncomfortable position - she can say no if she wants to! Not a big deal.

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I don't think there is anything wrong with asking. If you are close enough to be invited, you are close enough to ask.

Just tell the truth, you don't want to drive alone, but you don't want to impose by bringing a guest that's unaccounted for.

Good luck! I wouldn't mind at all if someone asked me.