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Just Said Yes January 2017

Is it petty to hold a grudge for no-show guests?

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Alicia, on February 4, 2017 at 6:56 PM

My wedding was three weeks ago and I had three different parties not show up to the wedding after they RSVP'd 'yes' months in advance. I understand that certain things come up in life unexpectedly, such as vehicle problems. However, NONE of these people have even bothered to TEXT me as to why they...

My wedding was three weeks ago and I had three different parties not show up to the wedding after they RSVP'd 'yes' months in advance.

I understand that certain things come up in life unexpectedly, such as vehicle problems. However, NONE of these people have even bothered to TEXT me as to why they didn't show up let alone apologize for their absence.

I just feel very hurt that all of these people who have known me for years and years (some even my whole damn life) would not even take the time to tell me why they decided not to come. I had a limited guest count (75) so I specifically only invited people close to me that I love. It makes me feel that maybe they never loved me to begin with?

Anyway, I just want to know if you guys think it is super petty of me to remove these people from my life(social media, phone contacts, etc.)?

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Master July 2017
lyla · on February 4, 2017 at 9:43 PM
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If they didn't even give an excuse, I'd be pretty upset.
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VIP August 2017
Mrs. Velez · on February 4, 2017 at 9:48 PM
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If they rsvp then yes i would be upset.
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VIP May 2017
Amanda · on February 4, 2017 at 10:27 PM
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I think its petty , yes feeling like they never loved you is a little dramatic.
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VIP June 2018
Holly · on February 4, 2017 at 10:30 PM
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It's fine to feel hurt, but don't hold a grudge. They probably didn't want to bother you on your wedding day.
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Master October 2017
Ellsy62 · on February 4, 2017 at 10:40 PM
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I guess I'm petty also. I'm planning my 2nd wedding and I'm still pissed at the people that didn't show for my 1st lol. 15 people to be exact. If they would have called me I'd might feel differently but they never called or anything. I was pissed too.
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Master July 2016
MzRosaLu · on February 5, 2017 at 7:33 AM
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We paid for 11 people who either cancelled last minute (like day before), or no showed.
Of the 8 no shows, only 2 contacted us. It's been six months and we never heard from anyone else. We had a small wedding to begin with (70 guests), so these were family members, not random acquaintances. I took it as a sign that these people no longer qualify to be a part of my life. I guess I'm petty...so be it.
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Super October 2017
K squared · on February 5, 2017 at 7:52 AM
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I wouldn't hold a grudge but I wouldn't be inviting them to any future events and I would no longer be going to any of theirs.
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Beginner February 2018
nicjc2018 · on March 3, 2018 at 11:13 PM
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What you feel is exactly what I'm feeling. I talked to someone days before the wedding and he decided not to show up. I think it's extremely rude and does make me look at them differently. So no your not petty....what your feeling is normal. But at the end of the day you got to marry your best friend...no one can take that away from you.
Congrats!
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Super October 2018
Stacey · on March 4, 2018 at 9:17 AM
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Nah, not petty. My sister got married over 10 years ago and she still side eyes the people who no-showed. lol. She actually ran into one couple the week before her wedding and they went on and on about how they couldn't wait for the wedding, and then they no-showed. RUDE.
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Just Said Yes April 2023
Heather · on January 20, 2023 at 11:44 PM
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No, it’s not petty! It shows you the real people in your life. Remove them from your life and focus on the real people.
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