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Master October 2014

Is it okay to wear white?

Mallory Abroad, on August 10, 2014 at 5:10 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6

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We are having our marriage convalidated (basically recognised in the Catholic church) after the wedding. Those things are pretty strict - it shouldn't be treated like a second wedding etc

But do you think it is okay for me to wear white ?

(Obviously not the colour of virginity but still seen as the colour of brides)

I'm not going to wear my wedding dress again but do I go white again or just something formal?

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Latest activity by Emily381, on August 11, 2014 at 12:20 PM

Master April 2014
Nonna T · on August 10, 2014 at 6:48 AM
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Wear what you like Mama and make sure Miss C wears that dress her daddy bought her again!

And as our priest told me, (when I was approaching 58) you ARE a bride. So work it!

As far as from a Catholic perspective, I will tell you the same thing I tell others with similar questions: Your commitment to have your marriage convalidated says a lot (of good things) about you. And I have one more but don't want to start a religious, blow-up thing here so feel free to connect and I will tell you how marvelous you are
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Savvy November 2014
Jeanette · on August 10, 2014 at 8:39 AM
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White is the color of joy, not the symbol of virginity. Wear white! (ps-a veil over the face is a symbol of virginity)
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Master October 2014
Mallory Abroad · on August 10, 2014 at 11:55 AM
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Aww thanks Tina I want to hear but it won't let me connect just tell me! and Cass will be wearing that dress she'll wear it everyday :p

Jeanette - and wearing blue
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Master September 2014
Barbara · on August 10, 2014 at 12:11 PM
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FYI-- I found this online:

Women should dress up for the convalidation, but they usually don't wear white. If the wife wants to wear white, though, there are no rules against that, and doing so is not considered poor etiquette. The convalidation ceremony is a more understated and simple event than a wedding itself, though, so a formal dress that expresses the woman's style and preferences is fine. A man should traditionally wear a suit and tie.
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Master October 2014
Mallory Abroad · on August 10, 2014 at 1:19 PM
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Okay, that is a lot of help Barbara thanks
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Devoted October 2016
Emily381 · on August 11, 2014 at 12:20 PM
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Could you explain more about what convalidation is? My FH and I are Catholic but we've always dreamed of an outdoor wedding (no church = no catholic ceremony) so we were looking into doing two ceremonies - one Catholic ceremony in the days before with just a couple people with us, and then a big civil ceremony at our venue on the day. How is convalidation different to a ceremony? What would be the difference between doing a ceremony before the wedding vs. getting our marriage convalidated after the wedding?
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