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Is it okay to purchase wedding dress without your bridal party being there?

Sharyl, on September 6, 2019 at 5:52 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 24

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I recently went to a bridal spot with my SIL and sister to look at dresses just for fun. I ended up finding a wedding dress with a really good deal and made the purchase not only because of the price but because I loved how it fit my body. I haven’t told anyone besides my close family and now my MOH & bridesmaids are asking me when we should all go dress shopping. Is it okay to get a wedding dress without your bridal party being there? I just feel guilty that they weren’t there but I don’t feel guilty in purchasing my dream dress.

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Latest activity by Sherry, on September 9, 2019 at 3:07 PM

Master May 2019
Chandra · on September 6, 2019 at 5:53 PM
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Absolutely! Some ladies like to keep it a surprise from everybody! I love the bridal party first look photos!
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Cyndy · on September 6, 2019 at 5:54 PM
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Absolutely! You can go with whoever you want or go alone...like I did. 😊. Congratulations on finding your dress. You will get to go with your girls to pick out bridesmaids dresses.
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Izzykern · on September 6, 2019 at 5:56 PM
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It is absolutely okay! No need to feel guilty if you love it and got a great deal! I purchased mine online (with the assistance of my mother) and honestly was not planning on inviting anybody else to bridal salon appointments. It will be a fun surprise on wedding day! Of course I want to send them pictures so bad but I want them all to see it in person with my hair/makeup to get the full effect!
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Cher Horowitz · on September 6, 2019 at 6:01 PM
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There's nothing wrong with what you did! None of my bridal party was there when I bought my dress
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Kelsey · on September 6, 2019 at 6:10 PM
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Yes totally fine. I didn't go with any of my bridal party just my aunt and mom
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Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on September 6, 2019 at 6:13 PM
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Only you get to choose who you share your dress shopping experience with.
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Amanda · on September 6, 2019 at 6:26 PM
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Absolutely not! You can't wait on them and they should understand. Yall will go for their dresses, plus (as far as I'm aware), a lot of people don't take their wedding party. I took my MOH, mom, FMIL and FAIL, then got my girls opinions before and after purchasing!
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· on September 6, 2019 at 6:31 PM
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Absolutely!!!! I went alone my first time just to get a feel of what I liked/didn’t before bringing anyone with me
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Kayla · on September 6, 2019 at 6:56 PM
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I bought mine when I went with just my mom. I have no regrets not having anyone else there. My bridesmaids respect that I wanted to have just my mom and then they are coming with me when my dress comes in November!
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Mrs. Bubba · on September 6, 2019 at 8:50 PM
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You can go with them to select their dresses.

Staet by sending them ideas that would look good on their body type (leaning more towards the larger sized Bridal party member) and let them choose the one that they feel most comfortable with.

Let majority rule if need be.
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Jess · on September 6, 2019 at 9:08 PM
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I only went with my future sister in law. Everyone is so far away and she had recently got married so her opinion was so valuable to me. i think if you explain why you did it and your intentions then it should be okay. and maybe apologize for any hurt feelings.
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Karla · on September 6, 2019 at 10:07 PM
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It’s totally okay! When it’s the one, it’s the one, even if it’s so unexpected! I’m sure they’ll understand that as well. To smooth things out you should offer to go bridesmaids shopping and focus more on their dresses so they don’t feel left out from the whole experience.
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Cassie · on September 7, 2019 at 6:45 AM
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There is no need to feel guilty. Just let them know you went with your SIL and unexpectedly found the one. You can always take them with you to buy accessories for the dress if you haven’t already.
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Megan · on September 7, 2019 at 6:53 AM
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I also found mine unexpectedly. I’m just going to go accessories shopping with the bridal party to make up for them not being there. But definitely don’t feel guilty!
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Jeanie · on September 7, 2019 at 8:01 AM
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Yes. It’s so hard to coordinate everyone’s schedules, that I think most brides find their dress without their bridal party or all of them there. I have no bridal party, but went with just my mother because none of my friends were available that day.
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Meghan · on September 7, 2019 at 8:32 AM
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Yes, perfectly fine. I didn’t take any of my bridesmaids. I only told my parents. I didn’t need all their opinions. I took them with me when my dress came in for pick up. I got to try it on, put on a veil, and do all the things. It worked out great.
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Devin · on September 7, 2019 at 9:04 AM
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I never went with my bridal party. It was just my mom the first time then just my mom & aunt the second time.
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Lady · on September 8, 2019 at 9:46 PM
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Of course it's ok, buy your dress however you want. you can still shop for BM dresses with everyone if you want.
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Lauren · on September 8, 2019 at 10:45 PM
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Don’t feel guilty. It’s ok. My bridal party lives around the country so it is impractical. Also depending on your timeline and work schedule it’s hard to dress shop many times. We went to two stores with about 3 total people. My mom, best friend and a friend who isn’t in the party (met her too recently and it’s too late :/). I think it was perfect to have less opinions
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Laura · on September 9, 2019 at 1:22 AM
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It's absolutely ok! I went dress shopping with just my mom. She's the only one who knows what my dress looks like! I can't wait to do the first look with my bridesmaids.
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