Is it ok to skip the RSVP cards all together ?

If I remember yours was a bit different...held at your in-laws (?) property and semi-self catered? I think in your case, I wouldn't think they are necessary

How many people are you inviting? How many are you budgeting for?

Well, if you're ok with having excess things, then I don't really think it's an issue. Personally, I would rather save the money. You'll end up paying for everything by count though, not just food. Favors, drinks, centerpieces, etc. Again, if you're ok with it, then go for it. I do think people will think it's odd, and I bet you will still have people contacting you, FH, or family members trying to RSVP to you.

I think that could end very poorly. I think I remember you're having a smallish wedding, but even still RSPVs will make it easier to track. I'd also be worried that some guests might take a lack of RSVP to mean it's so casual they don't need to worry about showing up at the last minute.

Sure...assuming you don't care if people come or not, skip away. But don't you want to know who's coming?!

It's not just the food & beverages, it's also the number of chairs & tables (linens & centerpieces) and bathroom facilities needed.

It bothers me when I set the table for a holiday dinner and then have to take away a plate/chair -- I can't imagine not having a handle on how many guests to expect for a wedding!

Personally, it would drive me crazy. Are you doing a seating chart or plated meals? I think you definitely need RSVPs in those cases. Unless your wedding is super casual, you need them.

Most of the RSVP posts are from brides being frustrated about NOT knowing who is coming, not the RSVP cards themselves.

No judgement here! If you feel it will work for your situation, by all means skip it!

I also think it would be easier to just make people RSVP. It forces people to decide whether they're going to commit or not and honestly probably also acts as a reminder that your event is coming and that they need to prepare for it. I think having an RSVP makes it slightly more formal instead of a drop-in event.

Honestly if you think you will be fine with out them then go for it. I am sure people will still text or call to let you know they will be coming so you will have some sort of an idea of who will be there.

Maltese: Both are Correct

e=mc2 : 75 as of today / 100 budgeted

futuremrslav : No seating chart , Semi - Catered ( We are getting all the meats from a local restaurant and making all the fixins ourselves.

90% of all the guest are immediate family and friends that we kinda know wouldn't miss it for nothing. Guest aren't required to leave with plates , but would be welcome to seconds and thirds during dinner . If it's still some left they are welcome to take some home. I have one aunt and uncle always leave with piles of plates. LOL

I'd just let them know to email you or something. most people don't seem to understand how to use the RSVP cards anyhow- but most will text you or email you about it.

Im inviting 38 immediate family members only. And 4 of them are in the wedding. So, Im skipping the card and putting "RSVP -regrets only" with my phone number, on the bottom of the invite, right under "dinner reception to follow". They can call me if something comes up at the last minute. I antcipate them all being there, but if one couple cant make it due to work etc they can just call me. Im going to get it all on the invite if i can.

I do like the postings about having to know the count for the tables, flatware, ect. If you want to eliminate the card itself, I would create a wedding friendly email address (brooke&**@*****.***) and ask that they respond with their RSVP to that email address.

ETA: Cheapstakes REGRETS ONLY is a good way too

I agree I would do e-mail or phone call on the card just because it's nice to know/it will make it seem like more of a commitment on their end/less likely to be forgotten about or not put on the calendar

I'd follow Mrs Cheapskate's advice just so you have an idea and you can plan accordingly for setting up.

I don't know. I like to have firm rsvps even when I am just having a dinner party or a holiday dinner. While you don't think many people won't be able to come, there will likely be a few who can't make it. With 100 people the odds are someone might have a conflict. But if you are fine with not know who will and won't come you don't need an RSVP. Just make sure you plan on everyone coming and know that you will likely have some empty seats and leftovers.

Thanks Cheapskate for the idea I will consider that . Put my moms number on it lol

From what I have seen from previous brides . They will call , call , and call for guest that say they will come and still don't show. Or guest that do seen the card back and still don't come. With events I don't think there is away to have ever have accurate numbers . I have seen people decide morning of that they wasn't going to go. That's why my FH and I said we will just plan and budget for our cap. We have already ordered tables and chairs , linens for 100 , if it's empty seats that's good too more elbow room,

Well a lot of people have given you good advice, but looks like you made a decision before it was posted anyway. Hope it works out!

LOL I was listening to all the advice read above . I was just stating my opinion on on the whole RSVP thing.