Is it OK for a Bridesmaid to Call Shower Guests Who Haven't RSVP'd

Yes, @Catrapoin - this is actually how it's spelled on my birth certificate!

Meanwhile...

The Bride told me that I needed to leave because I was single and "everyone knows single bridesmaids are unlucky!"

"I had never heard that before. How was it unlucky?"

"Because I don't want to have to deal with you being the single bridesmaid at the reception. All of the guys will want to pay attention to you and not me"

"But it's your wedding..."

"Exactly. MY wedding. I get the guys. You don't!"

She then went on to tell me that it "wasn't fair for her FH to have to find a groomsmen" to walk me down the aisle. "All of the other BMs are having their husbands also serve as groomsmen. It would be one thing if you were seeing someone seriously, but you're not."

"Ok...well, thanks for letting me know."

I was later disinvited entirely because the bride "didn't want any old maids at her wedding"

I'm a year older than her, almost to the day...

Wow, I've never been to a wedding where the bride got ALL of the guys.... Is that how it works now? Do I get all of them? What if one is my brother? So I have to have him too?

What it sounds like is she had major issues with you from way back, and couldn't tell you the truth (probably because you did nothing wrong and she is crazy), so she had to invent several stupid reasons of why she couldn't have you in the wedding.

I woulda bitchslapped her mama though. Straight up.

Part three.

Mutual friends - we went to the same college and were in the same class, so we had many mutual friends - told me that she gave them excuses, some she told it was my fault that I was a b****. She mostly told people it was because I was too ugly/fat (I've always been smaller than her, by a lot).

At least two people told me that she told them it was because I refused to forgive her for trying to sleep with my college boyfriend (my first fiancee) and how funny it was to her that she ended up getting married first when ours fizzled (he cheated).

Yeah... I didn't know about her trying to sleep with College Boyfriend...

So I ended up not being invited - but received no less than six reminders to get her stuff from her registry.

When I hadn't sent her anything six months before the wedding, she called me out on facebook for being selfish.

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Waaaaaaaait!!!! GTFO!!!!!!!! OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am so sorry that happened to you! F**K HER!!!!

Thats some of the craziest s**t I've ever heard. She is a bad person. She is going to learn her lesson. She must have some deeply rooted issues with you that you don't even know about.

Part 4.

That was pretty much the end of things. All of our mutual friends ended up saying "no", if they were invited at all. Most weren't, because the bride was afraid they'd tried to sneak me in or be my spies.

Afterwards, four people sent me the pictures she had posted on facebook, unsolicited.

The amateur photographer had a dirty lense, so there's specks all over the photos. The lighting was horrible. The AC unit is in more photos than the bride. The outside shots were 90% the parking lot and 10% the view they were going for. The dress was way too small. Honestly, most people there had their WTF face on in the few shots of other people the photographer took.

It turned out there was one single bridesmaid - a younger relative. She walked down the aisle with I believe her father. Who was also a groomsmen.

The groom's groomsmen were all from the bride's side.

The whole thing was a trainwreck that I'm glad I missed.

-Fin-

Thanks ladies!

Throughout the whole thing, so many people shared with me stories. They all said "since you thought she was such a great friend, I didn't have the heart to tell you this, but..." and it was something this bride did years in the past. I won't even go into it all, but yeah. Some of it was messed up.

She pops up every now and then, asking to be fb friends. I replied once, saying that I forgave her for what happened in the past, but I don't want her in my life.

She used to tell people we were twins, but on her big day, I was "too ugly". That really says a lot more about her, than it does me.

High five. To the face. With a chair. Twice. Wait, more than twice.

Wow. That is one of the craziest things I've ever heard. She disgusts me.

LOL @Catrapoin and @LadyCrystal!!

I learned so much from that experience, mostly NOT what to do. Her loss is my BFF's gain, and that's all that matters!

Well if she goes batshit crazy and you need a bouncer (or bodyguard) I'm available.

Unlike LadyCrystal, however, I do not work for ham or meatballs.

And if that's your picture as your avatar, imma go jack up her mama myself, cuz you are beautiful!

@Tiffany your picture is gorgeous and yes I do work for ham or meatballs.

Only infamous meatballs

I also will work for ham or meatballs!!

Everything about my BFF's wedding planning so far has been phenomenal (well, there was an issue with the Co-MOH, but it's been dealt with)

My BFF's mom sent me a lovely email thanking me for everything I've been doing. She also wanted to know the name of the printer I used for the shower invites, because they were so beautiful.

I printed them myself - Monotype Corsiva font for the win! It did take a few hours too long to match the ink color to the embellishment pre-printed on the invitations LOL.

In the end, the there could be only one victor in the battle of Me vs My Printer...

Thanks for the compliments @Catrapoin and @LadyCrystal

Wow. I'm with Lady on this one- come be my MOH too!!

OMG Tiffanny!! That was the craziest story!! I wanna whoop her a**!!!!!

Any bride (psychotic b*tches not included)would love to have you as a MOH. You sound like an amazing friend.

@laudie: It really bugs me too!

I even made it so easy for them. I had put their addresses in the return address on the reply envelopes, I had stamps already on the reply envelopes, and yes, my address was in the "to field" lol. I was even going to pre-type their names on the reply cards, but my mom wisely pointed out I was driving myself crazy as it was. But better me than the bride, right?

Thanks, @FinallyDoingIt

I try.

And when it's my turn, I know the bride will do the same for me.