Is it OK for a Bridesmaid to Call Shower Guests Who Haven't RSVP'd

I honestly think it would be perfectly ok to call. I don't see why people can't RSVP! So annoying.

Totally ok to call

Thank you Lauren and TiffanyLF.

I'm trying to save her time and trouble, cause that's my job! But she's the bride, so what she says goes, right?

Her offered compromise is to have 1) the groom call or 2) give us their email addresses.

So I'll have the bridal party divy up the email addresses and track down the ladies that way. Having the groom call will just cause other issues, I fear.

So you can stalk them at home or on the interwebs, but not on their phone? Strange...

But that's nice of you to be so nice to her... Make sure to put a title in all caps like "YOU NEED TO RSVP YOUR SORRY @$$ TO XXXX'S BRIDAL SHOWER-- NOT SPAM" so that they don't delete your email when it pops up in their junk folder.

Catrapoin - she's my best friend and has been for 17 years. We've been planning our weddings for just as long. Of course, back then we thought we would be marrying Leonardo DiCaprio or a member of *N SYNC hahaha.

I feel bad that I haven't been stepping up to the plate as much as I should. A week before she got engaged, I moved about four hours away for a new job. There is a Co-MOH, who is more local to the bride, but part of me still feels I should be back home more often to help.

Yes, I think your subject line works!!

She should definitely call.

I think it's ok for you to call, but if she's not comfortable with that maybe her mom could call.

Which she @ForeverMyLove? The bride or the bridesmaid?

Tiffanny- you sound like you're trying your best to do a kick@$$ job! It's the thought that counts, honestly, and I'm sure she will love the shower you're throwing for her. It's great that you've been friends for so long and are finally fulfilling those dreams (though maybe not with NSYNC lol); if you take a look at the threads here recently, there have been a bunch of MOHs who have been nightmares. It's refreshing to see your post!

Thanks Catrapoin! Maybe I should start a website/forum for MOHs and set those Maids of Horror straight LOL

There's a million and one sites to help you brides, understandably, since it's YOUR big day, but hardly any for the bridal party. I've been learning a lot via Google and reading things from the POV of brides.

@Allyson - That's a good suggestion. Thank you

OMG like @Catrapoin said. Thank you for being a Good MOH to your friend. I would facebook those people or call her mom and ask her to give you their info. Heck do you wanna be my MOH lol

LOL@LadyCrystal

*facepalm* why didn't I think of FaceBook??

Tiffann- you should accept Lady's offer-- but watch out, cuz the place of reception bouncer is taken

I know you have your plan but I will say that guests not RSVPing is so annoying to me! I was in charge of a bridal shower and baby shower for the same person (over a year apart) and her friends were TERRIBLE at RSVPing...cmon people! I even gave them an email to respond to so they didn't have to speak with anyone!

When I had no heard back I either fb stalked them (the ones I had met), or made the bride/mother-to-be contact them.

Sure, why not @LadyCrystal! This was my first time in a bridal party* and it's been pretty groovy.

*Technically, I was a BM for another wedding for about a month. Unfortunately, it didn't work out. Story for another day, if anyone cares LOL

I CARE!!! I CARE!!!! @Tiffany

I need to stop commenting while tipsy. My jokes aren't funny...

And ooooh Oooh!!! I care too!!

Ok @LadyCrystal.

To make a very long story short (and oh is it epic):

When a good friend of mine got engaged, I was the third person she called. She called me before she even called her dad. I was with her an hour before she met her now-husband, and considered me her good luck charm.

About a month into the engagement (they were engaged for 20 months) her mom facebook'd me. Telling me that we needed to talk. Shortly after that, the bride im'd me.

I was out of the bridal party.

The MOB told me that I needed to leave because - and I am 100% serious right now - I "throw off the aesthetic of the wedding they are trying to achieve. (I) don't have the right look" When I said "Excuse me?" She said "What, do you need me to spell it out for you? You're too ugly to be in my daughter's wedding. Goodbye!" and that was it.

Meanwhile...

Holy fucking shit.